A mother of two who enrolled her kids into a new school is outraged over a survey they were given without parental consent.

*TRIGGER WARNING – some readers may find this content distressing*

Brandy Sobotka-Ramos, who lives in Idaho, had put her son and daughter, aged nine and 11, into a new local school when they were told to complete a survey, which is designed for adults, called the Adverse Childhood Experiences survey, Fox News reported.

The survey, frequently cited as a landmark in epidemiological research, was conducted to determine childhood trauma in adults by the American health maintenance organisation Kaiser Permanente and the US Centres for Disease Control and Prevention between 1995 and 1997.

There are 10 questions, including “Did an adult or person at least 5 years older than you ever touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way or try to actually have oral, anal, or vaginal sex with you?”

Another question was “Did you often feel that your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it?”

and also: “Did you often feel that your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it?” And then this one: “Was a household member depressed or mentally ill or did a household member attempt suicide?”

The school did not contact the parents before giving the survey to the young children.

“My children were required to complete this in class and were told it was not optional, but anonymous unless they chose to include their names,” Ms Sobotka-Ramos told Fox News.

“I never dreamed I would be explaining anal and oral to my babies.”

She said she went back to the Heritage Academy and obtained a copy of the ACE questionnaire only after one of her kids climbed into the car and started telling her about it.

Ms Sobotka-Ramos is just one of several parents, grandparents and community members deeply upset and determined that the school administrator who issued the survey, licensed counsellor Christine Ivie, be held accountable.

About 100 local people have banded together in a private Facebook group ‘Call to Action: Heritage Academy’ to express anger and “seek justice”.

“If the Heritage Academy School board will not do its job and respect its stakeholders, we will also hold them responsible,” Ms Sobotka-Ramos said. “We will do whatever is necessary to protect our children and the future children.”

Would you be totally outraged if your children were subjected to this survey? Or is it a great prevention method?

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  • um that is not right! maybe have a counsellor at the school for kids that need it but don’t push these things onto the kids


  • Disgusting, exposing young children to this kind of material. Children should never be exposed to this type of material. Shame on the school and its counsellor and adminstrators. They should be held accountable putting this detail before young minds.


  • I think a parental approval should be asked, just as they ask parental approval for even my daughter in high school to do the “tell them from me-survey”.
    I have an eleven old year boy. He doesn’t know about anal and oral sex. He is developmental quite young. I wouldn’t like him to be confronted by it via a survey at school. However it wouldn’t be the end of the world if this would be the case. Just another moment we can explain to our children what sadly happens to some kids.


  • The children are 9 and 11 years old. If they are required to do it in class how did the parents get access to it. If they took the forms home to the parents would probably have told them how to mark them or filled them out themselves. All pupils are probably required to do it at some point. The school is probably trying to protect its pupils and giving them an opportunity to get help. I know of a 6 year old girl who was molested by her Dad at night while her Mum was at work. The Dad was unemployed and the only job the Mum could get at the time was night shift. She found out when the girl told her Mum she was sore. She checked her and discovered she was really red, also had what looked like scratches and the pair of knickers she had on had blood in them. The Dad was bathing her at night before bed. He was using his finger and that accounted for the scratches. THe Mum took her to the Dr. then to hospital who called the appropriate Govt. authorities and the Police to go and arrest the Dad. He did a long stint in gaol and was told in court that after release if he went within stated areas at all he would be arresed, charged on breach and gaoled again. The girl saw a Physcologist for quite awhile before they suggested testing her reaction as part of her recovery program. She would “freeze” on the spot if a man went anywhere near her – like the length of a house driveway – at the house they were visiting. They family who live at the house were outside near the front door when they arrived. The guy had his back that way fixing a leaking tap. She “froze” and clung to the back of her Mum’s clothes. As soon as the Dad was arrestedThe Mum approached the school to have her daughter transferred to a class with a female teacher. The situation was explained to the male teacher and his reaction was he hoped the Mum had kicked him out. Apparently children talk amongst themselves at school so they may have been asking similar questions soon anyway – especially the 11 year old……….They are lucky they weren’t given a sex education lesson as I know happened at one SA Public School. It happened in the 1st term a group of children aged 5 years old. (she even used a doll – head down under her dress – to show her Mum how a baby came out and other really grapic details). A very angry group of parents requested a meeting at the school to voice the opinion. None of the parents had told their children the graphic parts of sex education. They didn’t consider them to be old or mature enough at 5 y.o. to be told that much. I would love to have been a “fly on the wall” at that meeting.


  • it could have been worded more age appropriately otherwise I think it is fine. What if the parent is doing inappropriate things to their child? This could be the only way they can get help. Other than having to explain what the things are to the children it shouldn’t be a problem of you are bot doing anything wrong


  • It does not seem right to do this without a parent’s consent.


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