Meal times can be hard enough, but one mum has been criticised by her mother-in-law for feeding her daughter leftovers.
Dealing with fussy eaters can be difficult at the best of times, but one mum has come under fire for serving her daughter the same meal twice. After her daughter refused to eat the Sunday roast prepared for her lunch by her grandmother, the mum told her mother-in-law to serve it to her again for dinner and got an unexpected response…
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Posting to popular parenting forum Mumsnet, the mum said she was shocked at her mother-in-law’s reaction. “Partners mum gave me a funny look and said it was ‘cruel’ to just give her a meal she doesn’t want to eat,” she said. “I said just to put it in front of her and if she doesn’t want to eat it, then she can go home and go to bed hungry as she won’t be having anything else.” The mum said that on the second attempt, her daughter ate the meal without complaint, but she still couldn’t ignore her mother-in-law’s disapproval, asking other parents if she was being unfair in her approach.
Replies to the mum’s story were mixed, with many saying that she had done the right thing. “I’m with you,” said one mum. “It’s how I was raised and I’ll eat anything these days. A number of my friends though who present choices, allow children to dictate the menu or turn food down all seem to be producing very fussy eaters who expect to always be pandered to.” Others were critical of the mum’s strict stance. “I would never allow my children to experience that,” wrote one mum. “Never use food or lack of as punishment.” “There is nothing to be gained from turning food into a battle ground,” said another.
It’s a tricky issue, and there’s a fine line between effective discipline and creating negative associations with mealtimes and food in general. We think if you can at least get your child to try the meals that are put in front of them, then you’re onto a winner!
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