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Mum turns to internet to share her frustration after a friend shared photo’s of her child online without her permission.

Posting on the forum Mumsnet, she asked other users if she was being unreasonable to request she take the photo’s down.

“We have no recognisable photos of our DC (darling child) on social media. My visiting friend has just posted some where they are recongisable and I’m tagged. DC aren’t tagged, no names mentioned. She didn’t ask our opinion/permission…

“Am I being unreasonable to ask her to remove those where DC can be recognized?”

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People agreed she was well in her rights to calmly ask her to remove the photo.

– “Yes, you are perfectly within your rights to ask her to remove them, and she probably should have asked you, especially if she can see that you never put pics of your kids online (I have a couple of friends the same and I just know not to put any pics of their kids on FB).

But, tbh, if she has a private FB page and it’s only going to be her friends and your friends seeing these images then I don’t really understand the problem with your children being ‘recognised’ (unless there are child protection issues?) Do you worry about your children being ‘recognised’ in the street?”

– “Just ask her. I accidentally posted a picture in a group of a friend’s child, completely forgetting that she doesn’t put pictures up. She asked me to take it down. I apologised profusely and did immediately. Not a drama.”

– “Ask politely and don’t give a lengthy explanation. You say she’s a friend so she might be embarrassed to have upset you so keep it light (like, would you mind closing the door, tone of voice, rather than OMG you put me child at risk, how could you be so selfish and heartless). Although given you are asking, I’m sure you would be kind!”

The original poster responded to comments saying, “Thanks! I’ll keep it light. I’m not hugely offended but just rather she didn’t. But she’s so much more relaxed than I am about things, that I just wanted to check I wasn’t being psycho uptight! ”

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  • Yes I would politely ask her to remove it. There has been incidents where photos on social media have been photo shopped or used for illegal things such as blackmail, exortion etc.

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  • How many of you mothers use your children’s photo’s in your icons without their permission?

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  • This is why I dislike social media,Refuse to be on face book or any other thing with you twit face in it,This is completely disrespectful to the family and very much a brain numbing thought from the poster,Do as you would like done to you,Cheer’s Krusty.

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  • The mother is within her rights, to ask to remove the photos. I will not post photos of anyone to facebook, if I want to share a cute picture, with another family member or friend, I do so in a private message. I think it would be similar if photos were in a newspaper without permission. People need to be mindful to not breach the privacy of others.

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  • It’s about respect and courtesy. I think you should always ask someone if you can post a photo of their child. There are many issues at play here – that can involve family estrangement, families in hiding, a parent’s choice, a child’s digital footprint. Just don’t do it.

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  • Always a touchy subject when it comes to other people and kids in general. It’s just polite to ask first and never assume.

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  • I’d politely ask her to take it down. We have a family policy – we don’t post photos of anyone – kids or ourselves on the Internet. It’s a blanket policy, which makes it easier to ask other people to respect it.

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  • That is not good, you should never post a picture on line without that person’s permission. She has every right to be upset.

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  • No it is never okay to post a photo online without permission. I refuse to post any photos online of my family at all. Mainly because they are there forever and you have no control.

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  • No matter how much you put photos on and delete them tfacebook still has your deleted photos stored away so in other words there is no privacy at all with Facebook, but other than that she should have asked out of respect some people like to live private lives or for the safety of either there family or child. Or some people could have other reasons e.g the family could be wealthy so they pinch child for money these things do happen anyway it would be the right thing to ask there is no privacy on Facebook even if your profile is on private computers are smart the technology these days…..

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  • I think it’s well within the parents rights to ask to have the photo deleted or at least have their child blurred out of it. Doesn’t matter if the Facebook page is private, their could be friends who screen shot the photo and share it on their Facebook. Facebook definitely has a ripple effect that cannot be pre-determined by anyone

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  • I remember when we just started Facebook, these things wouldn’t even come to mind. Times have changed. Some people are flexible with this and others more rigid and protective. It’s good to ask before you post and perfectly fine to respond on a post involving your family, to have it removed

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  • Common to the poster and her response are sensible light adult conversations usually resolve most things.

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  • Yes it is ok to ask the person to remove the photos and not to post any in the future. Just be polite but firm about it.

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  • If they don’t want pics of their kids on the internet fair enough but I find the whole ‘recognisable’ pics thing a bit weird! If it’s a public profile I wouldn’t want pics of my kids on their either but a private page no problems. But in saying that I guess it’s no worse then a kids pic going into a school newsletter anyone can look at it!

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