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Eight years ago, Mother of two, Jackie Hall would have been found collapsed on the floor of her bedroom completely overwhelmed with emotion at the events that had just transpired. You see, Jackie had just had a rather large Mummy meltdown.

It was a day just like any other at that time of her life, which unfortunately resembled a roller coaster ride of loving motherhood one minute to hating it the next.

The hating part however, had become increasingly frequent since her second son was born.

She was stuck in a powerful cycle of screaming in anger at her (then) two year old and her six month old, seeing the look of fear on their faces and then feeling consumed with guilt and self-hatred at the mum she had become.

It was this repetitive cycle that led to the events that ended in her breakdown, which incidentally changed her life and went on to change thousands of other parents’ lives too.

This is her story told in her words:

“I had just come home from shopping. It was 5pm – arsenic hour. There were dishes to be done, dinner to be cooked, groceries to be put away and Cody (then 2) and Ryan (then 6 months old) were whiny and very un-cooperative.

I had had enough.  My life was like Groundhog Day and I hated it.

Cody pushed my buttons one last time before I completely lost it.

I remember screaming in this high pitched psychotic type rage to “Shut up and stop whining”. I threw a loaf of bread across the room, and then slammed a nearby knife on the bench so hard it bounced off and narrowly missed Cody’s head.

I couldn’t believe what I’d (almost) done. I ran to my room screaming, “I HATE MY LIFE!” all with baby Ryan on my hip.

My husband came in without saying a word, took Ryan from me and allowed me to have my meltdown in peace.

It was at that moment, on the floor of my bedroom, amidst my tears, that a distinct message flooded my mind.

It said: “No one else can change this for you. No one else can change the way you feel about your life. Only you can.”

Wow, how much those words resonated deeply within me.  As logical as that sounds, the realisation of those words was astounding.  It literally felt like a switch had been flicked.

Of course no one could change this for me.  It was me who had to change the way I looked at these challenges. I was causing my reactions. It was my thinking causing my stress, so it was my thinking that could stop my stress!

I’d like to say that the switch meant that I never got angry again, but that is far from the truth.

However what happened that day became the catalyst for completely transforming my life, and little did I know it then, but it also became the foundation of The Parental Stress Centre.”

Having always been an avid learner of personal development materials and courses, Jackie went to work on completely changing her mindset in the context of parenting.

She researched, studied and applied the information to herself, wrote about it along the way to keep track of what was working and what was not and along the way and began teaching other parents how to change their mindsets too.

Fast forward 8 years and Jackie has now authored five books, created 12 online programs, travels the country keynote speaking and running seminars, and writing blogs and articles that educate parents of all aged children from newborn to teens, on shifting their mindset.

She has trained with several independent organisations in methods to alleviate stress and has worked intensively with clients suffering from severe depression, anxiety, drug and alcohol addictions.

She’s been on Channel 7’s Sunrise twice with her signature program – The 28 Day Tame your Temper Parenting Challenge, appeared in several parenting magazines and just last week was announced the 2014 Ausmumpreneur Rising Star Winner for her work with the Parental Stress Centre of Australia.

“Wow, what a ride I’ve been on in the last 8 years.  What a complete turn around! That time of my life was the best thing that ever happened to me.  It was the breakdown I needed to get my break through.”

Jackie says that The Parental Stress Centre is not just her business, it is her life.

“I am determined that no parent will ever feel the way that I did about parenting. It’s just not necessary.  What we do at The PSC, is not therapy either. It’s education. We are teaching parents how to handle life’s challenges without stress and by doing this; we are also arming them with the tools to teach their children those same skills too.

The ripple effect of what we do at the PSC is immeasurable and sorely needed in today’s society.”

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  • Mummy meltdowns, such tragic events, it shows we have truly reach the end of outer tether and simply cannot cope with anymore

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  • Your website looks amazing. What a great epiphany. Thank you or sharing your vulnerability, I feel like I’m just coming out of a really low anxious period after having my bub by being intentional with how I interpret situations. It’s helped to do a whole lot of accepting the struggles and things don’t seem so bad.

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  • Yes I have had those days too. Great that she has turned it into a positive experience.

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  • Think at some point every parent must go through the same. I know I have

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  • Sounds like every parents story. I’d love to work with someone like Jackie and help other parents if I could.

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  • Love to read your story :)

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  • Thankyou for sharing your story, mindset makes a big difference to so many facets of our life. It is really tough though sometimes to keep that positive mindset happening and to work on what we need to.

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  • I am over it a lot of the time, being a single mum though not much I can do but to go on.

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  • wow i think i really need this sometimes it feels like i am hated in this house.

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  • I’ve had many a meltdown (small and large). Still haven’t got myself together and I know my kids are suffering from it. I am trying but it’s so hard. I will look into these programs to see if it helps. Thank you for the article.

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  • Thank you so much for this article. I have found myself increasingly in the same space: little niggles (inconsequential on their own) just kept snowballing until I would snap. I was turning into someone I didn’t want to be, and it is comforting to know it’s not just happening to me! Still trying to figure things out, but at least I know there is hope!

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  • Thank you very much for this well written article, many mother’s will relate to this.

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  • Well done Jackie. Thank you for telling your story. I can in part relate to some of this —with an 8 year old. She is going through a stage of doing everything she knows is not allowed when I mind her. She knows I know the rules her parents have, that I apply the same ones and make no exceptions. She moves very fast and she knows I can’t catch her.grrrrr!!!!! Last time in desperation I ignored her completely for awhile. It seemed no attention worked this time but it doesn’t always. A couple of hours later she was as “sweet as honey” and wanted to sleep with me on the lounge – not wide enough – I almost landed on the floor because she moves around, so I slept in her bed.

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  • Thanks for sharing this interesting information. A thoughtful read with plenty of food for thought.

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  • Thank you so much for this article. I am guilty of having Mummy Meltdowns.= with my 2 and 4 year old boys. I feel so bad every time I do. I know that I have to choose to change. It’s so hard though.

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