January can be a tiring time, the excitement of Santa pressies has worn off, the kids are exhausted from their late nights and you’re back to work, but they aren’t back at school.
I am going to make this whole New Year Resolution stuff easier for you.
There is only one resolution you need for 2019 (and every other year!).
To love yourself more
Mums give so much of their time and energy to their kids, family and friends and often leave just the scraps of energy left for themselves. When I changed from being like this, to prioritising myself more and connecting with myself I actually found I had MORE quality time to enjoy with my kids!
Yep! Spending more time with just you and being nice to yourself helps your kids be happier. It’s a great ripple effect.
When you practice pressing pause on the chaos and being kind to yourself, you will see your energy and happiness transform.
Here are some quick tips on how to explore loving yourself more:
We all know too well how negative that inner critic can be. The expectations we set for ourselves are unrealistic, you’d never ask your best friend to expect that of herself. Notice how you talk to yourself and shift it to something nicer!
It’s so easy to get caught up with what’s wrong in our life. One of the fundamental laws of the Universe promises that you get more of what you’re grateful for. Write 3 things a day you’re happy to have in your life. Be specific and varied in your list.
Quit Taking Score:
Life is supposed to be fun! When you stop taking score over what you did better/worse than other Mum’s, or who did more stuff at home with the kids you’ll be happier. No-one is perfect and everyone is often trying their best. This game playing rarely makes anyone happier..
Accept & Ask for Help:
Right now you may not have time for yourself as you have too much on your plate. Start to notice how often you actually (politely) refuse offers of help from friends, family or partners. People like to help. Start by either accepting the next offer of help, or asking for it and finally
Ditch the Guilt:
When you get time to yourself know that you deserve it. Us Mum’s are often ‘killjoys’ of our own happiness. Give yourself permission to enjoy this precious time.
Embrace these tips and I promise you’ll be happier. It’s not selfish to love yourself. You can’t give what you haven’t got, fill your cup up!
How do you practise self love? Share with us in the comments.