Thanks goodness, I’m glad there was a twist with this story. Usually it’s all about don’t discipline my child because he’s my child etc etc. And I agree with her, no-one has the right to yell at other kids or touch them but I agree that another adult telling them off for something warranted is how we all used to be raised. It encourages kids not to be entitled so and sos, it means they learn to listen to authority and it also gives them a dose of healthy respect for their elders. Good on this mum!

I will dicipline a child if I witness that child lay a hand on my child. I will lay a hand on a child only if Ihave to intervene in violence to my child. I also permit my child to defend her self from others hurting her.

I have had several run ins at shopping centres of late which kids have pushed my child down the slippery dip backwards, a boy barged my daughter & another little girl pushed my child off a play area my child came to me twice to tell me so the third i decided to get up & watch for myself. As i walked to the area the child right in front of me pushed at someone else’s child so I pipped up “who owns this child” well the mother not watching comes to tell me that is so rude of me to say that. Well I am sorry I will defend my child & intervene where I see necessary. I will never hit or grab aggressively but my words may be strong as I wantvthe child to know that behaviour is not acceptable.

Just do it kindly and not aggressively.

I’d be completely happy for someone to tell my children if they’re doing something inapropriate, inconsiderate, disrespectful or harmful. Same as I would tell a child if they were direspecting or hurting my children or the playground itself. Doesn’t mean I agree with someone touching them, just a gentle word to remind them the behaviour is not ok.

Hey feel free to. To be the parent. But remember while telling my kid off you get to take him ,her home pay the bills feed them cloth them education is top one pay that also .., okay .. No you do not want that. .. So shut up .. Ask where is your mummy . Then speak to me .. If my kid is being a little turd I will tell her off. No you .. Not your job .. Oh buy the way how about you have a cover over your pram due to it being cold and a female strange in a coffeee shop wants a look removes the cover .. Omg I nearly had a kitten .. Wtf is that all about .then want to touch baby that has issues . Omg people are so rude .then call you up tight … Get over it .., I love the parents that take the child to the bathroom in the shopping malls but do not wash the child’s hands .. Oh yeah then tell you your child should be toilet trained without knowing anything about your child .. Well my answer one day was to say piss off .. I was in the parents room changing miss nearly five .who is full incontinent due to medical issues no fault of hers at all .. And get told she should be trained .. Hello do you pay the bills ..no mind your own business .. Woman cannot keep there mouths closed over it .. You have no rights to comment on other people children none …

I totally agree.

I wouldn’t discipline but sure would say something when any child hurts, bullies or annoys another child (same for adults btw).

I agree and would be happy for someone to tell off my child if they are doing the wrong thing. I think society has gone down hill and it puts our children at risk when people are too scared to get involved when something bad is about to happen.

I love this, and I agree. I must admit I’ve told another child off when their actions and/or behaviour has presented safety issues for another child (any child, not just mine) and/or they’ve been unfair. It was just a reflex action and I did feel a little bad initially, but I got over it quickly enough.

Agree fully with you Karen – its a pity more mothers don’t agree. It just might make that word respect one that is thought about yet once more and perhaps stop some of these gangs from happening.

Thank goodness this post continued as it did!! As I read the first section I was thinking, “Yes, yes it does!” We are all in this together and it is great to see there taking on the ‘village’ approach.

I wouldn’t mind, as long as it was handled properly

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  • • cherz replied
    • 05 Jun 2016 , 12:33 pm

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  Agree! Handled properly is the key.

With four kids my hands are always full and I totally agree with Karen’s response abd reasoning.

Wow what a surprising response

I love this! I feel the same way! It’s hard to keep an eye on 3 kids at once so I’d hope no one would let one of mine bully another kid.

I would be okay if a stranger calmly told my kid not to do something rude/ naughty/ dangerous. I have done this – I think the key is “calm”.

That’s a difficult situation but if someone told my child off I would react too. If someone is being hurt or rough she should have asked where’s yr mum and come and see me. Playgrounds can be horrible places sometimes. I have always told my girls I someone’s being mean to them to come and see me straight away. I am always keeping an eye on my girls. One lady abused me coz my autistic daughter pushed in line at Bunning’s and she yelled and swore at me. I wasn’t happy but even apologizing didnt stop her. A very nasty rude person my daughter said she didn’t push in either.

If I saw a child being a brat and hurting other kids or not waiting their turn (especially if toward my child) I wouldn’t hesitate to tell them off. Sometimes they respond better to a stranger. I’d expect someone else to also tell my child their behaviour isn’t nice / ask them to stop if I weren’t around

No one has the right to touch your child or yell abuse at your child but can tell them not to do something if it affects her children to a degree!

I totally agree! It used to be the old adage ‘It takes a village to raise a child’, but now people are too afraid of fallout to do anything. Ego comes into it as well sometimes… But if my child is doing the wrong thing, I would hope that a nearby adult would be setting them straight quick smart!