A new dad says he’s banned his mother from seeing his newborn, after she flew into a rage over breastfeeding.

The furious dad says he’s sweet wife, who hates confrontation, was left hysterical after she was berated by her mother-in-law for breastfeeding in front of her father-in-law.

“My wife hates confrontation, she never stands up for herself, she won’t argue with anyone ever I mean ever,” the new dad explained on reddit. “She will let you walk all over her and then apologise to you.”

He said one thing she has been most afraid of doing is breastfeeding, because of her concern it could lead to confrontation. In fact, she’s so worried that she only breastfeeds at home or in a bathroom, and always with a blanket. However, the devoted husband says he’s spent a lot of time supporting his wife so that she feels comfortable breastfeeding outside of a bathroom when they’re not at home.

“Well, we were at my mother’s house,” the new dad explained. “I don’t have the best relationship with her but my wife thinks it’s important and I enjoy talking to my dad. So we were over with the baby chatting with my father and my mother cooking and as they were talking she started feeding.

“Baby was eating and she had a blanket covering her slightly. My dad has six kids so he couldn’t give less of a sh*t, he looked away for a moment so she could get situated and engaged back in conversation without any issue.

“My mother comes in, gasps and goes on a rant. She said that that is disgusting and if she was to do that she should’ve gone home, especially in front of her husband, who apparently ‘looks uncomfortable’ and it’s rude to do when you know people around you don’t like it. Dad cut her off saying to keep him out of it and feeding a baby wasn’t his issue. She ignored him and continued ranting saying that she needed to respect herself more and don’t ever do that in her house again.

“I stopped her, I said that she needed to get lost and get over herself she had six kids who she undoubtedly did the same thing with and this was just her way of taking her anger out but she’s not going to do it on her. I said that she was being a hypocritical a**hole and that this is the last time she’s seeing wife or baby. This happened once and not going to happen again.

“Then she said she was just in a bad mood and she’s so sorry she took it out on her and she’s welcomed to do that whenever she needs to. I told her she should have thought about that before. Then I went to my wife, who mid-rant went to the bathroom in hysterics but didn’t want to interrupt the baby’s eating. We sat in the bathroom for a little while until baby was done, she stopped crying.

“We left, my dad said I was being more reasonable than he would have. Mum sent me tons of messages. Family is telling me I was being dramatic and that it wasn’t that serious and I was being entirely unreasonable and if my wife was that hurt by it she needed to grow ‘thicker skin’.

“She didn’t even actually have an issue, she was just being mean. I think I was right to do what I did.”

The dad now wants to know if he did should reverse his decision to ban his mum from seeing her grandchild. Let us know what you think in the comments below. 

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  • Some people just don’t know when to stop…well done to husband to stand with his wife.


  • Good on him for standing up for his wife and child. Unless mum can learn to control herself I would want her around them either


  • I applaud the husband for protecting his wife. MIL should have offered his wife the use of a bedroom while she breastfed instead of going on a rant. I agree she should be banned from seeing her grandchild but maybe just until she apologises to her DIL, not her son. The rest of the family members also need to back off or they’ll also miss out


  • MIL overreacted and especially since she has had 6 children herself she should have had some level of understanding what it is like to feed a young baby.


  • Very rude. Personally i couldnt feed in public unless I was covered. Both sides may have crossed the line


  • Over reaction on both sides in my opinion.


  • If your mum reacted like that this is only the beginning…if you let her back in no doubt more of these situations will happen, no wonder you don’t have a good relationship with her, well done for sticking up for your wife


  • Your mum definitely has issues. My first thought when I read that she went off at your wife for feeding in front of your dad was that maybe he wasn’t faithful. But after reading the article it didn’t come across that way. Either way, your mum was way out of line and you did the right thing by standing up for your wife who was feeding your baby. You don’t need to change your mind about your decision.


  • Oh wow, antiquated opinion from the older woman. They would have has an argument from me too, breast feeding is a necessity, bugger the prudes


  • You stood up for your wife, that was the right thing to do. If other family members are now chipping in with their opinions ignore them…unless they were there they are airing their thoughts on something which actually doesnt involve or concern them. Your dad validated your reaction too. Your mum’s behaviour is frankly baffling and somewhat narcissistic. Your wife doesnt need to grow a thicker skin, but your mum maybe could think before shooting her mouth off.


  • So good standing up for your wife, difficult situation.


  • It depends on whether or not this kind of behaviour is normal for her as no doubt it will happen again, but over something else. What an over-reaction by a woman/mother nonetheless and that she was the only one that had an issue with it. I think things need to settle first. I love how this man stood up for his wife, as did his Dad.


  • So after having 6 kids she responds like this ??


  • Pleased you stood up for your wife and helped her during the breastfeeding of your child. I would say that this storm will slowly die down and take the future as it comes without banning. It would be a pity if your child doesn’t love and know his grandfather and his partner, so just keep calm and let things settle down.


  • Good on you for standing up to your ridiculous mother. I’m dumbfounded by this woman’s audacity.


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