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A dad-to-be says he’s fed up to being subjected to regular verbal abuse from his wife, which she blames on pregnancy hormones.

He says his wife is six-months pregnant with their first child, which was very much planned and wanted.

“The first trimester was great but around the time we hit the second trimester she became very aggressive,” he explained.

“If I cook dinner it’s not just wrong but it’s ‘f**king disgusting get this away from me’. If I clean the house and put things away I get yelled at for putting things back because she now wanted them put somewhere different. Ive been yelled at for waking up for work, for playing music she didn’t like, for making coffee and she didn’t like the smell and a 100 others.

“It’s gotten to the point where there is at least one explosion per day where I am yelled at and insulted. I’ve tried to speak to her about this but every time she hand waves it as ‘it’s just the pregnancy hormones it makes you crazy you’ll just have to deal with that’.”

The dad-to-be says while he’s well aware the impact pregnancy hormones can have on an expecting mum, he feels it still doesn’t justify the level of ‘verbal abuse’ he’s experiencing.

“Finally, the other day I told her after a particular rough yelling session I said that ‘pregnancy hormones don’t justify yelling or abuse to your partner’. This wasn’t received well. It led to more yelling and her calling me an a**hole. So am I the a**hole?”

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  • Sounds like abuse to me..hopefully it all worked out

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  • Pregnancy makes you crazy, sure, but this is just plain abuse.

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  • I would be insisting you go with her to her next appointment. This is not a normal reaction at all and heaven help you after the baby is born if something isn’t done now. Good luck.

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  • No, you don’t have to ‘deal with that’ You deserve to be spoken to like a human being. Yes hormones are real, but this sounds like more, maybe a trip to the Drs is needed

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  • Wow, that’s just pure disrespectful on her behalf. Yes there are pregnancy hormones but to be abusive is not on. I remember being grumpy every so often and even crying when I was tired and waiting for my pavlova to cool down so I could eat it. Everyones hormones can react differently so hopefully this mum to be gets some professional help before the baby comes.

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  • Yes, pregnancy hormones are a thing but this isn’t normal. It sounds like she needs to see her GP and request a mental health plan..

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  • I’ve never heard this level of abuse by a pregnant woman. You can’t blame the pregnancy hormones, sorry! Being a decent human being should be the aim and sadly this pregnancy experience is being ruined for you both. I think she needs to talk to someone professionally, even if it’s just her GP.

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  • Please get your wife to seek mental health assessment and help. If it wasn’t there prior to pregnancy it may be bringing out underlying issues, hormonal or something else. It is essential to get on top of this early, especially with postpartum hormonal changes and the load of having a newborn to ensure PPD/PPA doesn’t set in. Best of luck

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  • Maybe the pregnancy is bringing out a different undiagnosed hormonal issue. Pregnancy hormones wouldn’t impact you that bad. Attend her next doc appointment and bring it up there to be looked into.

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  • There is no way it would make her that bad. Maybe she needs to speak to her doctor to find out what’s going on. Maybe next time you want a coffee, tell her you’re going out for coffee so you don’t make her feel sick. Don’t pick anything up off the floor that isn’t yours, just tell her you didn’t know where it went. I know when I was pregnant I’d get weepy for no reason but she is just over the top. I wish you the best for the next few month.

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  • I think it’s a load of poo and just an excuse. I’ve had 2 pregnancies and never stooped to such an extreme. Yes, you can sometimes get emotional, but I do not understand that level of aggression. Were there signs of this before pregnancy? Was she just holding it in before?

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  • The crude language is totally not needed. I think she needs some counselling to address her anger.

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  • This sounds like an awful environment to live in and definitely not justified by hormones. It will be worse once the baby is born and she has hormones to deal with and extreme tiredness.

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  • Absolutely no excuse for this level of aggression and it is definitely abusive.
    Mood wings yes, being a miserable cow, no.

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  • No excuse. Sounds like a piece of work using this as an excuse. She needs to do some damage control sooner rather than later. Perhaps get professional help.

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  • Zero excuse. This type of behaviour is not acceptable.
    You need to tell her that she needs to seek help if she doesnt stop this behaviour will become ingrained and will continue.
    Good luck….you deserve better treatment.

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  • This is not okay and not normal even with pregnancy hormones making you crazy!

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  • No you are not. She needs help. Ask that if she is not going to discuss it with you and work on it that you go to the doctor together to get help.

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  • Sure pregnancy hormones can make you snappy, emotional and over react at things, but is no reason to insult your partner who’s trying to support you and no reason to wave it away when the partner is trying to discuss it with you. The wife may want to seek some professional support to address her inbalnces.


    • Support is needed and surely it would only benefit the relationship.

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  • Hormones can indeed cause issues and there needs to be understanding all round; however emotions still need to be regulated and partners needs to treat each other with respect at all times. Some professional support might be a good idea if things are getting heated and help is needed to maintain the relationship.

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