Mum’s shock confession on her lack of desire for sex since having young children has hundreds of other women saying they feel exactly the same way.

The first-time poster on Mumsnet, mother-of-three “DcQuinn”, wrote she could ‘go months without it’ despite still fancying her husband ‘loads’ shares Daily Mail.

After reading the post other women admitted that they felt the same, with some saying they didn’t care if they never have sex again.

“Dcquinn” revealed that her youngest child is just 16 weeks old and that she also has a three-year-old and a 15-year-old.

She told fellow users on the Mumsnet site that she feared there was something wrong with her because she’d gone off sex and that she ‘felt bad’ for her husband who has the ‘patience of a saint’.

She explained: ‘I feel so bad for him, I just wonder what the hell is wrong with me?

‘We have been together for 14 years and I still fancy him loads.

‘I have a 15-year-old and my two youngest are three and 16 weeks. But I have felt like this before I had the younger two. So what is wrong with me?’

Far from being alone, plenty of other women reassured her, with many saying they felt caring for young children and holding down a job left them with little space for sex when the prospect of sleep was more tempting.



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  • i can understand that priorities change and she is just foccused on her child at the moment. When you are caring for a little one, it can be hard to switch off from being the parent to being the partner. Hopefully you have a good partner who will understand and give you time


  • Not everyone is the same or has the same likes and dislikes so why should sex be any different? I know ladies in their 80’s who still enjoy sex, and others don’t. Just be yourself – love is different to sex. And if you show your partner you still love him, then that is the best thing to do.


  • Some ladies take longer to recover from giving birth – emotionally as much as physically. Some struggle to stay awake long enough to care for their loved ones and drop asleep as soon as they get on their bed.


  • It is the same as before parenthood.


  • I’d love to know if my sex drive comes back if he woke up on his own and let me sleep instead of his alarm going off and me waking up to make him wake up. And a billion other annoying little habits.


  • I don’t think it’s strange that you go off sex when the family life asks so much from you. Sex is one of the ways we can express our love for each other, it’s not the only way.


  • What a pity the article didn’t expand to some of the reasons why these women no longer want sex, just to reassure them they’re not weird


  • my second last child took 4 and a half years to conceive, I am so sick of sex I couldn’t care less if I ever had it again


  • I managed to hold out for 3 of the ‘required’ 6 weeks of no sex post-birth before I couldn’t wait any longer. Yes I’m tired, all the time, but I’m never too tired for sex. It’s hubby who says no.

    For me though, sex is as much an emotional need as a physical one, often more so. We are very affectionate, there are lots of cuddles, kisses and butt patting in our house, but there’s something deeper in making love, if you’ll pardon the pun. :D I love knowing I’m bringing my partner pleasure, and that he sees me as sexy and desirable. It makes me feel like less of a frumpy jersey cow/housewife, and allows me a freedom away from being “just mum”… Even if we have occasionally turned over afterwards to find the baby grinning at us in the romantic glow of the night light.

    If anything, I wish we had more sex!


  • Everyone is different. With three kids she is probably exhausted. I know many people like her.


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