Heavily pregnant and clueless about what the future held, there I was sitting in my birthing class, grasping a baby doll to my boob. “This breastfeeding thing will be a breeze, the doll has it nailed”… I thought to myself.
Oh boy was I wrong! Breastfeeding is HARD… for some.
Right after I had my son Mac, there I lay in recovery (post c-section). I was barely able to feel my own legs, and feeling pretty overwhelmed from the whole experience. I’d never even held a newborn, and next thing I knew I was being forced to get him latched and feeding.
Well, Mac just didn’t quite perform as well as the doll, and I was definitely nowhere near as relaxed. This was much harder than I imagined.
Off I hobbled to the breastfeeding clinic to hopefully gain a little insight and get some assistance. I’ll never forget the poor girl next to me who had just had her first baby also. Her milk hadn’t come in and she was struggling. I just wanted to give her a big hug and say ‘I am here with you, this isn’t easy’.
She went on to tell the nurses she had given her baby formula, as he wouldn’t settle overnight.
The nurse SHRIEKED!! “You did what????”
Her exact words, and I do not tell a lie, were … “don’t ever do that again!”. It was like she had fed her baby poison.
It was from this moment, I was aware that there was a pressure to breastfeed.
I will point out, that I am neither pro or anti breastfeeding, however, I do feel strongly that we are all individuals. While breastfeeding works for some mums and babies it just doesn’t for others.
If you can do it, then DO, but if you can’t, don’t beat yourself up about it. You are not, and I repeat NOT a failure. Your baby will survive and even grow up with a full bill of health.
Did you know 1 in 7 mothers are diagnosed with Post Natal Depression (PND) each year? Alarming figures in my opinion!
It’s all about HAPPY MUM, HAPPY BABY. Babies are smart, they can sense our emotions. If we aren’t relaxed and happy, chances are they won’t be either. Do whatever keeps you happy.
We should pat ourselves on the back each night – the kids have survived the day!
They have even been entertained, fed, bathed and cuddled. We know they are happy (most of the time anyway), so we have done our job.