I can see both parties views – some babies items I would prefer new. If I trust the person it’s coming from and know that it’s been well looked after, I’d happily accept 2nd hand.

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  • • mom160270 replied
    • 22 Jul 2022 , 8:08 pm

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  I agree with your comment.

I would have had no problem with being gifted the second hand SNOO but I understand some people may have a problem (rightly or wrongly). If I was thinking of doing the same thing I probably would have asked first.

That was a thoughtful idea to pass on something like that. But its a torn situation. Yes the preggy lady may have been rude and ungrateful as it wasn’t “brand” new & probably is a person who never had 2nd hand items but also, then again, the preggy lady prob like the sense of comfort of everything new as she is bringing new life.
There is nothing wrong with 2nd hand gifts, and some people dont appreciate the thought. But something like this, maybe should of asked her before gifting it as it was a big ticket item.
I offered a barely used bottle sterilizer pack (used 6 times, worth $150 including extra bottles) to a family as a gift but she told me that she appreciate it but for a 1st baby, she wanted secruity that everything being new wont break on her so quickly. Each to their own.
At the end of the day, you werent an a**hole for confronting the preggy lady and did what you do by slapping the $15 in her hand. Hopefully she ends up being apologetic for her behaviour.

I personally wouldn’t have an issue with it but I know many would – especially first time mums where everything is so unknown as it is so something as simple as been brand new gives a sense of control that it is safe and clean.

I don’t seen an issue with it. She was obviously hoping someone would gift her a brand new one as she was dropping epic hints, so was ungrateful that she didn’t get her expectations met, which is sad. The poster probably could have also gotten the onesie to be honest.
When my friend was having her first baby she knew it was a girl. I gifted her all of my daughter’s dresses that were, as people commented, like brand new. I told my friend they were not the baabyshower gift as I had gotten her something brand new, they were just a hand me down. But honestly, if people can’t afford anything I’m good with that too as that was me once.

Oh wow thats a lot of money to spend at least she should be grateful to even get a gift and a baby shower

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 23 Jul 2022 , 8:37 am

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  That is a lot of money and being gifted items old or new is a bonus.

I think it’s a very generous gift and this pregnant co-worker sounds terribly ungrateful. I’m glad you just gave her the $15 and let her miss out on the SNOO.
Other than a brand new pram, everything else our babies had was 2nd/3rd hand and I have no issue with that. We were enough clothes for our 1st born to wear and I didn’t have to buy her many clothes at all until she turned about 3.
Babies grow so fast though that you don’t need to spend hundreds and hundreds of dollars on things when a 2nd/3rd hand thing will do exactly the same thing.

That is an amazing generous gift! So sad this woman couldn’t see that.

Wow, so not TA. If anything the expectant mum ITA. A anko is an amazing gift, 2nd or 3rd hand. I can’t believe the gall of this woman!

Wow, I did use my sister’s crib, cot and rocking chair. I would have been rapt with this Mum’s SNOO. How rude and ungrateful. She’s had 2 baby showers!! and people still buy gifts when the baby is born. When is enough, enough?

Second hand gifts are the best! No pressure and save the environment. What a thoughtful gift, shame the mum to be didn’t see the thought or appreciate the gift givers intentions.

Wow, that’s so ungrateful! I’d be over the moon to have it. The gifter could have sold it for at least $600 – instead she gave it away.

I accepted anything offered, new or second hand. Babies are so expensive. There is no need to be ungrateful – I loved that you put $15 in her hand and walked off.

That is a really generous gift and she is just super ungrateful. Honestly, you couldn’t even blame that on pregnancy hormones it’s just plain rude..

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 22 Jul 2022 , 3:19 am

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  Yes, an unbelievable attitude indeed ! In my opinion she doesn’t deserve any present !

Very ungrateful. Giving her the $15 was right. Her talking like that was wrong.

Babies go through ages and stages pretty quickly and used items make so much sense. We received so many used items and were delighted. I don’t understand anyone being upset by such a gift but we all see things differently.

That’s a terrible attitude. Babies only need stuff for a short time so second hand is best usually and saves loads of money.

Woah ! I’m shocked by the attitude of the receiver,
There ‘s a Dutch saying “wie het kleine niet eert, id het grote niet weerd” translated “Who does not honour small things, is not worthy of great things”. However, this is not even a small gift, it’s huge !! The lady could have kept it for her next baby or sell it on ebay or Marketplace !

Why people think like this?! She should be grateful because at the end this is a gift no matter what it is!!

so ungratfull some new mums have no idea
i wanted to pass all my stuff onto my partners newphew or niece name brand clothes perfect condition and the both mums didnt wnat it because and my baby clothes my clothes are better quality than what they buy and i offered a very good condition pram which was a bumbleride i can totally see how you feel