Mum asks what activities do your children participate in each week and should her children be doing more?

Sharing on MoM answers the mum of two wrote, “What activities (outside of school/daycare) do your kids do and when did they start doing these?

“Mine do swimming and gymnastics (they’re 5 and 7) but so many of my friend’s kids do heaps more, but I have no idea how I can juggle more activities as well as the cost. How do you do it?”

Mums share

One mum shared “My 9 yr old does sport on the weekend that’s it….my 7 yr old does nothing at the moment…School is tiring enough I let my boys just enjoy being kids they will let me know if they would like to do something. No over scheduling here.”

Another said, “You do what is right for your family. My boys both play soccer (12 and 10) and my eldest also goes to boxing once a week. We don’t do anything else paid for. After school we play on bikes and scooters, go to the park etc. it all adds up and we as a family can’t afford it.”

“Kids should be allowed down time just to be kids. It doesn’t benefit your kids to have something on every day of the week”, wrote another.

– “Mine are 16,15,12,9. The boys do football, basketball, swimming and the girls do volleyball and cross country. I let them pick what they wanted to do. If they decide they no longer want to then they wont. I don’t force sports regardless of what other people’s children do.”

– “Too many activities I think is overwhelming. My 11 year old does dancing & has been going since she was 3.”

“My kids pick 1 activity and they stick with it for the year”

– “As a teacher one thing is enough! Let them play, cook, rest… their little lives are busy enough. More is not better!”

– “1 or 2 activities is plenty those days they are not doing activities do some at home crafts, baking etc save your money and do things at home as a family”

We have actually shared before how oversheduling a child is not recommended by experts.

‘A busy organised activity schedule can put considerable strain on parents’ resources and families’ relationships, as well as potentially harm children’s development and wellbeing,’ said study leader Dr Sharon Wheeler. Read more on that here.

I have one child who literally trains four nights a week and plays on a Sunday, and the other one who does no sport at all, but loves his guitar tuition.

I am forever beating myself up over it. But am slowly learning it is not the end of the world. I just continue to offer various choices and one day he may decide that something really does interest him. But if not, well that is OK too!

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  • Forcing is never ok


  • It really depends. I think all kids should participate in sporting activities.


  • I don’t think I will be forcing after school activities but if they want to do them I will support that.


  • Yep but for fun like we had growing up


  • Once my son started high school, we reduced his after school activities to just football – training 2 nights a week and a game on the weekend. We felt this worked well in allowing him to manage school work and still enjoying team sport.


  • I was forced into as a child and hated it so I won’t do it yyo my children


  • My kids were always on the go and wanted to do things – boys did cubs and scouts girls did brownies & guides and then they merged into rangers. They re still active in what they do


  • My children did 2 activities, with the older 2 it was Guides and Little Athletics and when the younger 2 were old enough, they did Scouts and Little Athletics. They learnt to swim and had a go at gymnastics. I have seen children that have activities every day of the week and they are so exhausted all the fun has been taken away.


  • My boys used to play football or hockey on the weekend. They had training one day during the week and that was all they wanted to do. When footy and hockey finished they could play cricket if they wanted to. I let them choose what they wanted to do and made sure they knew they could quit at any time.


  • I don’t think you should force your child to do too many activities.


  • When I was at school I’d often be aghast at how many after school activities my friends had it sometimes seemed that their parents were trying to stop them having any spare time at all (perhaps to keep them out of trouble?). Won’t be forcing my kids but hey they might expect it? Hope not, I want time with them too.


  • They could be encouraged if they need the physical exercise, but I don’t think they should be forced.


  • No forcing here. Only 1 of my kids has multiple activities per week, the others have no extra activities at all !

    • Now we just moved and we’re down to no zero after school activities, lol I still have to sort out the schools !!

      • I once we have school sorted it’s the question if our finances are good enough for after school activities. Moving is so expensive !


  • I know one family that all the children go to swimming lessons once a week. One of the boys belongs to scouts and goes one night a week but only for an hour or so as he is in the “Joey” age group.The eldest child, a girl plays netball one night a week after school. 2 of them love trampolining and go to that for an hour or two at a weekend. It is a “crime” if they have to miss that.


  • Nope it should be because they enjoy it


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