I have two of the most awesome men in my life apart from my hubby and they are my step dad (who as far as I’m concerned is my real dad) and my father in law, they have both been diagnosed with cancer, my dad esoophageal and lung cancer and my father in law prostate cancer.. I have watched these two men go from happy and healthy to a shadow of them former selves in months and it is such a horrible thing… My dad was told if this treatment doesn’t work we will only have for a few months, so how to you get your head around that from someone who is a hard worker, loving,caring to someone who might not ever work again, my father in law is so frail that he just gets by neither of them are the same they are very angry at things (not that I blame them) What do you say to them what do you do, my dad lives in a different state so it’s hard to get there to often and I worry about that (due to my own ill health I don’t travel to far) and my father in law I see maybe once a month they live in the same state as me… I also worry about my mum and my mother in law.. I love my dads and mums so very much but I don’t know what I can do to help I feel helpless…

Posted by Becca j, 22nd April 2016

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  • I’m so sorry you are going through this. I know you can’t be with them but you are doing all you can by letting them know you care


  • Cancer is such a soul destroying disease, long slow and insidious. I hope your 2 dads kicks dancers butt!!!


  • Thank you very much ladies for the advise I very much appreciate it and it is so horrible and frustrating to sit by and watch… I ring my dad and father in law every week and tell them what they mean to me and how much I love them and how much we all love them..xxxx


  • So sorry that the awful disease cancer has struck two very important people in your life. There are very good support groups out there that may be able to help both your these gentlemen. Specific cancer support groups have people who may have had the same emotions that they are feeling now. Talking about their feelings to someone who has gone or is going through the same thing may help them. When they have accepted the hand fate has handed them then they can be in a better frame of mind, to accept their lot or to fight the disease, to handle their relationships better. I hope they seek help and that you can all come together to face this terrible disease together.


  • This must be so hard to live with. I hope they will be able to stop the spreading of the cancer in both your father and your father-in-law. I can imagine they are angry. I would be too. Life can be so unfair.
    I don’t really know which advice to give, beside being there for them and show them your affection.
    I’m sorry! :-(


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