i’m a mum to a 2, 1 and a 10 weeker. i love my life, my kids, the works but the last two days i’ve lost the plot. my 2 year old is having tantrums and not doing anything i ask of him, simply picking up toys is a flat out NO with a screaming tantrum. this will set of my 1 year old who often does what his big brother does and sadly it all upsets my little bubba.

i try to give them time apart to play, time to play together, time to play with me, we go to playgroup twice a week, they have time alone with their dad for atleast an hour a day, we get out, we do things, i really don’t know what i have done wrong. i thought i was going along well. looking after 3 under 3 is a big job but my kids were so well behaved it was easy.

today i told my husband i want to put them in childcare and return to work. i don’t really but that’s how bad my day was. i don’t know how to deal with tantrums. i’ve tried talking and reassuring, taking away toys etc if behaviour continues. í hate to admit it but i even yelled which i feel horrible for. am i the only one, cause right now i feel like the worst mum. is it the terrible 2s. does this behaviour come out of nowhere or for a reason.

i hope tomorrow is a good day. i love my kids, their laughter and our time together.

i’d really love some advice on how to deal with mis behaving children. i don;t want to yell, i don’t want to take things away from my kids. i’d like for them to know the boundaries. am i being silly, is this the norm.

Posted by chicken83, 21st February 2013

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  • Your kids are still very young, give them time to learn – always be firm but fair and consistency is the key.


  • Do you and your husband agree with the same rules? You have a problem if he isn’t supporting you and using thesame set of rules and methods.
    You you use certain phrases/sentences for the same issue every time? Using different ones can cause confusion. Rules/ discipline must be consistent. Don’t let them do something/ have something one time but not the next. Don’t change your method when others are around or you are visiting.


  • Persist. They will evèntually get better at behaving well.


  • Your kids are still very young, give them time to learn and fully comprehend what’s expected of them. I’m sure they’ll get there one day. Good luck with it


  • I believe it’s bought on by the 2 year old being old enough to want things and wanting to say things, but lacking the vocabulary to express it. So they get frustrated and hence the tantrums. 3 kids under 3… You are doing brilliantly to not have lost the plot. Lol. Ignoring is meant to best way to deal with tantrums


  • Patience is yes that Key! Thank you for sharing. Very interesting!


  • Always be firm but fair and consistency is he key. I don’t envy you with 3 under 3 but these times shall pass. I must say it does sound easier to be at work but think of all the great things you would miss out on. Hang in there…it will get better.


  • yes you just have to have patience! and keep calm


  • I would try time out too.. It works so well here and is better i feel than yelling or getting to the stage you just dont know how to control the situation

    • Agreed. If you feel like you’re losing the plot take time out for you and them!


  • Sounds like days around here. We seem to go through patterns of behavior. He is great for a few days then we have a few down days. just remember it will get better!


  • reward good behaviour . a rewards chart works well


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