My mother in law seems to think we have it all, she constantly comments on anything new we purchase, of the kids are wearing new clothes or if we make any improvements to our house. I’m not sure why though, we’re a family of 6, my husband and I work long hours, I don’t feel we are frivolous with money but we do like to have nice things, keep up with technology, and nice furniture. We certainly are not rolling rich, we don’t go away on holidays or waste money on movies and hardly ever go out to a restaurant. But if we purchase something new like a t.v. or couch we do opt to buy well so it lasts.

However my MIL is constantly making comments on how much we have, and how many toys the kids have. I don’t think they are spoilt, they share their toys and hand down clothes, do I keep biting my tongue or say something.

Posted by littletacker, 3rd June 2013

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  • yeah pick your battles darl! i reckon, that i wish you luck! stand your ground though!


  • I guess you have to chose weather it is a battle worth fighting. Maybe just say yeap long hours pay off


  • Explain yourself to MIL exactly as you have here. You put it so well in above story, I can’t see her being offended by it


  • It’s only her opinion, depends on how much it bothers you I guess.


  • Some great advice already given.


  • Speak to hubby first, and see what he thinks about the situation. I agree it can be irritating and undeserved to be spoken to like this, but is it worth getting into a fight over? Maybe if now and then, you gently point out the points you made to us to your MIL, she may calm down. But probably not. She is what she is.


  • You know, saying something to MIL won’t change her. If only life was that simple. They say that the only person we can really change is ourself. So…. Why does it get to you so much that she is commenting? Give her a shock and hug her and ask would she like a coffee or tea. Ask how things are going ( the old diversion strategy we use when toddlers are misbehaving – give her something else to think about or talk about). Give her little gifts or treats- woo her with eye contact and attention. She will soon be telling everyone about her wonderful daughter in law. Give it a try. You might find someone likeable under that critical exterior. Some people just need to be shown a better way. : )


  • I guess it depends on exactly what your MIL says, and how she says it. Have you discussed it privately with your hubby? I’d talk it over with him, before I said anything to the MIL.


  • its great 2 hand down toys


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