You always know something is going to be bad when it starts “i know i shouldn’t, but”
You’re right you shouldn’t judge, you have no idea what someone’s personal situation is, there are probably plenty of patents who would love to be involved more with their kids’ education but can’t for numerous reasons. As mum’s we should be trying harder to lift each other up, not put each other down.

While I could not agree more that parents should be there for their children, I also agree with the statement that you should not judge others, as you have done.
You are right, you have no idea what situation other parents are in. I would also say that their views on the best allocation of their time with their children may not be yours.
I can honestly say that despite the best intentions and absolute best efforts that I make, I am not the perfect parent. I therefore prefer to work on my own shortcomings rather than finding fault with the way other people choose to raise their children.

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  • • mom94125 replied
    • 04 Jul 2015 , 8:02 pm

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  yes no-one is perfect and parenting is such a personal topic that you can feel “judged or incorrect” for going against the grain etc. We are all diff and come from diff walks of life. I think that everyone has an opinion and no-one has the right to say that you are wrong etc. We have to remember that our experiences, bias and opinions aren’t necessarily the reality.

I do agree with what you are saying to some degree but also the mum could work or had an appointment. We do not know everyone’s situation.

yes i remember a lovely teacher that my child had. I volunteered for the class and a few days later she saw me and came over to thank me again and realised that i had two other little babies and she couldn’t believe that i volunteered as i was already busy! I don’t mind helping out when i can as it benefits my child and her class. We have had weeks of no parents helping out and the home readers don’t get changed. I know that the gov makes you go back to work when the kids are all at school and a lot of mothers do seek jobs to benefit themselves so volunteers are subject to availability! I love being an active part of my child’s education.

Everyone’s priorities and situations are different.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 01 Jul 2015 , 7:20 pm

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  Most certainly-every situation and family is different.

I do not judge others as I do not walk in their shoes.

While I do agree with what you are saying…some parents have to work full time (even if they dont want to and would much prefer being in the classroom) just to keep a roof over their family’s head

I would love to but work hours are restrictive. However I spent a lot of time at home reading with her and talking to her about her day.

I have to change my working hours so I can walk my daughter to school at 9 am and then come to work at 10 instead of starting work at 8.30am. So I lose 1 1/2 hours pay but I could do with that. I take days off to volunteer in her school. But I don’t think all the parents could do that, everyone’s situation is different. And not all work places are flexible like mine.

I agree its important the kids need all the support they can get from their parents. Although i currently are unable to help out in the class rooms i make sure i spend time with my son every night reading his reader it doesnt take that long to do. Its really sad i spoke to the teacher the other day wanting to see how i could help my son with his learning while he was ill and away from school and during the converstation she just said keep reading with him when ever you get the chance. She then said so many kids come back to school everyday and their parents have Never Read a Reader with them at home. And something as simple as doing that helps the kids get ahead in such a simple way.

I agree with this.
It is so important to treasure the time with your children and encourage them in all that they do.

Couldn’t agree more! I didn’t have children for other people to raise them!

I try so hard to be there for my kids and volunteer, even just an hour of my time a week. It makes a difference.

I hope I can do that when my daughter is old enough to go to school

I agree that it is so important… i Volunteer at the school as my mother did. but sadly some mum don’t have time, between work, shift work and busy schedules, other children, and all of the complications that come with life . We are blessed that we can.