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Doesn’t it feel a little hypocritical that we all want our children not to lie to us, but we lie to them!

When you think about it we potentially deceive our children a lot:

  • “Put that tooth in the glass of water and the tooth fairy will come and leave you some money!” – Well, yes there will be money, but it will be coming from mummy’s purse.
  •  “If you keep pulling that awful face the wind will change and it will stay like that!”- I pulled a lot of faces as a kid and I think I look normal!
  • “If you sit too close to the TV you will get square eyes!”- My brother and I spent many hours sitting of an early morning with our noses pressed up against the TV watching ‘Thunderbirds’ and last time I looked, my eyes looked fine.

However what scared me the most as a kid was the classic, “If you tell the truth you won’t get into trouble”……yeah right, I always knew what really was to come if I did tell the truth!

Well, maybe they are not lies so to speak, they are fibs, a tongue in cheek falsehood, a bluff, a tall tale or a ‘white lie’.

I have been told that if you tell a white lie, you are actually lying to avoid hurting someone’s feelings.  That is a nice way to put it.

We lie to our kids for a number of reasons; to protect them, to help them, to stop a tantrum, for make-believe, to make them happy; to avoid saying ‘no’, to get them to eat their vegetables……. the list goes on.

Whatever you choose to call it or however you say it, the majority of parents lie, for their own reasons.

Do you think there’s any harm in this kind of ‘lying’?

Or will our kids grow up saying: “Oh my mum tells so many white lies, she could ice a wedding cake!”

What are the common ‘white lies’ you tell your kids?

  • As younger children, I told my kids all the regular little white lies, such as the tooth fairy, santa claus, Dont swallow chewing gum or or your bottom will get stuck together, dont pick your nose or your head will cave in etc. As they got older they have been taught not to lie and I truly believe my eldest dont lie to me (17 and 21). My daughter even came home at 15 and told me she tried a cigarette. My son rang me from a mates house on New Years Eve (where he was sleeping over) and asked if he could have 1 alcoholic drink. I believe little lies that create fantasy are fine, but dont lie to your kids about big things if you dont want them to lie to you.

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  • Everybody tells small white lies at some point, I try not to lie to the kids and i hope they will always be honest with me.

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  • when my son does not behave I tell him that santa claus is watching you and you will loose your Christmas gifts…

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  • We tell our kids that when the icecream man rings his bell its because he has run out of icecreams.

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  • I’d prefer my teen to tell me the truth up front than for me to receive a call/note from the school. Get in minor trouble but have honesty within yourself and respect for your parents OR get in major trouble when I get called out on you doing something wrong. Works some of the time. 🙂

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  • I’m a master of avoiding answering. A mysterious Mmmmm works wonders

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  • I try noit to lie to my child. I tell her like it is..sometimes omitting if I think she won’t understand.

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  • I pretend to ring Santa Claus when my kids are bad! They get scared, but it does work.

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  • My mum used to tell me that Mr Whippy only played music when the van had run out of ice cream! I use that one on my kids today! It works a treat!

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