You might be surprised by what parents really think of the dreaded mid year school reports.
Jill from The Motherlode and Mum to four girls, turned to good old Facebook to share her thoughts on the matter saying that they really don’t have much significance in the big picture of things.
Jill wrote, “Mid-year school reports are out. I’ve given them a quick glance, and put them out of sight. It’s taken me until Child #3 to realise this is the significance they deserve. #slowlearner
“As a mum, I’m always looking for an indicator that I’m doing this gig adequately. Tangible evidence to prove I’m passing. Once upon a time, I thought this was found in a school report. If my kid was doing “well”, that means I am, right? #growup
“I’m wiser these days. Miss 6 should thank her lucky stars for the lessons I’ve learned.
“When my eldest two girls brought home reports I took their grades personally. They are naturally straight-A kinda kids. No effort on their behalf, just luck of the draw brain wiring. It took some serious soul searching to realise I was linking my worth as a parent to their genetically-influenced capabilities. And I needed to cut that sh#t out.
“When #3 (Miss 6) began school, I’d evolved. The only thing I cared about was whether she was enjoying herself. Is learning fun? Is reading enjoyable? I can’t find the box on the school report that records this. (But thankfully the answer is yes.)
“This afternoon the girls wanted to know about their reports. Miss 10 has a conference with the teacher so will know her results. But for the younger two, all I said was that they were doing just fine… and then turned the attention to myself. #narcissist
“I asked the girls what kind of grades they would give me as a mother. It was an unanimous C-minus for housekeeping and a generous C-plus for cooking. A resounding A-plus for fun (shucks guys). A B-minus for managing my temper. Another unanimous A-plus for love and encouragement.
“They are generous kids, their gradings are at least two levels above what I’ve earned. And yet it sticks in my head that I only got a B-minus for managing my temper. I feel a little defective. I can only imagine how a 6 year old feels about a B-minus in maths.
“Which is why I now hide the reports, regardless of the grade. I want to raise lovers of learning, not perfectors of performance.
“To the kid with the D in Maths, just like me and cooking, you were designed for different concepts. But let’s keep working at it to keep the masses happy.
“To the kid with the D in English, just like me and temper management, this is important, we need to work at it. I believe in our ability to improve.
“To the kid with the D in Science, just like me and house-keeping, some things simply don’t light your fire. But science is essential, so let’s give it another shot.
“It’s good to know our areas for improvement. But more crucially, it’s good to know our areas of importance. My youngest two were described as “happy students”, my eldest as “insightful and respectful”. That’s about all I need to know.
“To the parents looking at grades tonight to determine their worth, or their kid’s. Step. Away. From. The. Report. Card.
“Love that kid for who they are. That’s all you need for an A+ in parenting. It’s easy to love a flawless report card, it’s spectacular to love the reality of the kid you are raising.
“Miss 6, you’ll never know this but while your report says you are doing brilliantly academically, you are struggling big-time with spelling. You are not “excelling” like your sisters.
“What I will tell you is that you bring sunshine to this world. That you recognise the kid who needs a friend. That your little grin sets my heart on fire every single day. That’s all you need to know. xx”
We asked our MOM’s what they thought of school reports
In a Facebook discussion we asked if mums thought much of the kids school reports and got quite the surprise when we got a flat NO, they really don’t mean anything.
One mum actually shared that there is “No point rewarding when the teachers cut and paste everything in the whole classes reports. My child and his needs, weaknesses and strength are not mentioned at all. ”
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