I know the elderly have been on this planet for a long time and can get a bit testy at times. We often speak about the youth of today and their lack of manners but I tend to think it cuts both ways.

The other day whilst out shopping I witnessed an incident between a 12 year old boy and an elderly gentleman. Obviously, the boy who was with his parents was excited as he had a small bag in his hand – a game for a Play Station, I believe.

Now he wasn’t aware that an elderly man was coming up behind him rather quickly to walk past and he swung the bag in a half circle as he walked.

The Elderly man let rip

Now the bag did not touch the man however the man went right off his dot at this child who was quite confused. The child immediately apologised but the man wouldn’t hear any of it. After a few expletives, the man walked off in a huff and a puff, leaving the child terrified and shaken up.

I do believe children mimic what they see and obviously this is in the minority but the elderly should stop and think and also have some common courtesy when out and about. The whole world doesn’t need to revolve around them, just because they’ve lived on this Earth a bit longer.

Mind Your Manners

As I walked away I heard the child say to his mother: “but I said sorry and he was still yelling at me and really angry.”

It really is sad that manners and courtesy are left at home nowadays whether it is the young or the aged.

Have you ever had a similar experience? Tell us in the comments below.

  • Some people just want to be grumpy no matter what you say. At least the boy knows he did the right thing apologising

    • I really believe its just the old school generation. They don’t really think before they speak.


  • I could understand the man complaining but the boy did apologise even though the bag never connected with him. Hopefully his parents told they were proud of him for using his manners.


  • There is this saying to “be kind to unkind people, they need it the most”…
    in the end of the day we don’t know what’s going on in their lives


  • Awww, I’m so sorry for this young boy. But I love his response. He’s been raised well and clearly came across a grumpy old man.


  • A good opportunity to model the appropriate social skills to our children and also teach empathy – maybe this older man was anxious about something, maybe his memory was not as it used to be before and he’s scared and lashing out, maybe he’s sick, chronic pain would make anyone grumpy and irritable. I would also teach my child what to say in such a situation – like apologise and move away. If the old man continues to carry on, that’s his issue not yours.


  • I have experienced angry elder syndrome myself many times. Oh, and I am middle aged. I have had a very angry elderly woman who decided that perhaps I wasn’t moving as fast as she would have liked and she rammed her trolley into my shins. I let the first one go. On the second one I turned around and asked nicely if she would be more careful with her trolley as she had run into my shins twice. Then she did it again, harder. I turned around again and told her that running her trolley into my shins was in no way going to make me go faster as I had people in front of me who I did not want to ram with my trolley. Well, she just let rip. Like it was my fault that I was in her way or something. I also copped an earful from an elderly woman who decided that joining the queue for the express counter at the shops didn’t apply to her and she could just go past all of us in the queue and be next. I was surprised no one said anything so I did. I very politely pointed out that the end of the queue was back that way and that she was after all of us who had been waiting. She raged about being in a hurry and I said that we are all in a hurry but we all have to wait our turn. Well, she finally went back to join the end of the queue and everyone else clapped me for standing up to her. I was polite and she somehow thought that her age gave her the right to be obnoxious and ignore decent behaviour.


  • Absolutely there was no need for the man to be so rude. I find sometimes people take their own frustrations out on others and a small incident can trigger peoples aggression. I hope the man felt bad about what he did when he thought about it later.


  • I agree wholeheartedly. There was no need to carry on in that manner and I feel for the child that he was slighted unnecessarily and did not deserve to be treated that way. I hope the young fellow doesn’t think that all old and older people act that way or are that grouchy because they aren’t. I hope the old man’s conscience is tested and he will realise what he did and change his attitude so there won’t be another moment like that to take place.


  • Yes I find some older people are expecting a lot they push in , speak rudely demand a lot
    I got told off in the street because miss 15month at the time wouldn’t sit in her pram and was walking beside me not running off but jumping galloping and laughing and I was told I was horrible mother and need to look after my child as she was in his way of walking which he clearly could of gone around her


  • We really don’t know what someone is going through. He could of been on his way to the bank because his daughter has been stealing money from him…elder abuse is real. Or just diagnosed with Dementia. Who knows he might of been in pain. Or he might just have raised his children differently to what he was seeing.


  • Yes, I find that the elderly can be quite rude and not afraid to speak their minds.
    I don’t think it’s up to them to yell at someone else’s child though. It can definitely scar them for life.
    That poor child!!!


  • I have experienced rudeness from both young and old people … I don’t think it is an ‘age’ thing, I believe it is all to do with attitude and upbringing!


  • I was at the zoo when I was about 10. It was one of the first night things where the zoo had a concert or something on. The crowd was huge. I was standing with my friends when we hear this gruff voice saying “get out my way”. We looked around and saw this hunched over old lady. Her daughter told her she doesn’t need to be rude, to which she replied “they shouldn’t be in my way”. In those days it was such a rarity to see an elderly person as anything but sweet and innocent that we laughed as we stepped aside. But I agree with other commenters, rudeness isn’t just reserved for the elderly


  • Yes I know we are supposed to respect them but I personally know an elderly who will go full blown if offended and start lecturing with loud voice just to let everyone else stare at you and make you embarrassed even its really not your fault.


  • I think we have this all wrong. Having bad manners and being rude isn’t an age thing, it’s an attitude thing. Blaming it on age, that they’ve lived a long time is sort of giving them a pass that frankly, they don’t deserve. They may be having a bad day, a bad life but so might the person who they’ve been rude and disrespectful too. It’s a two way street.


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