You know if you are.

And you probably are if you’re reading this – let’s face it no one likes to be angry right? We’d all much rather be happy, after all happiness is our natural state – anger is not.

In addition to anger contributing towards ill health and feelings of sickness, it also chews up valuable minutes, hours, even weeks, months, and in real extreme cases years off your life that you simply can’t get back.

Ask anyone who is angry about something ‘if you could wave a wand to fix the situation and be happy again – would you?’ – the answer is always yes! It’s both a toxic and very taxing emotion on the person feeling it and for the people that are unfortunate enough to have to be around it.

What to do now.

So where do you start in eradicating anger from your life? A great place to begin is to understand why the emotion called ‘anger’ rears its ugly head. Anger often arises as a result of us running out of ways to communicate. Plain and simple right?

Well not always – life is life, along the way we’re thrown some curve balls, challenges and encounter experiences that no amount of training could possibly prepare us for and along the way we’ve picked up some bad habits like reacting instead or responding and the like. Keeping your cool takes a bit of practice but like everything the more you do it the more you get great at it. We’ve all lost it from time to time – as any Mother with a teething toddler or a challenging teenager will tell you – sometimes a combination can really swing you over the edge!

Say goodbye.

Taking preventative steps is definitely the name of the game these days. Prevention takes far less work, time and effort to undertake then administering a cure.

‘If you are feeling stuck, frustrated or lost, consider getting a mentor who will provide unique insights to help you stretch, clarify your vision, get to the core of what is holding you back and propel you forward so you can get on with reaching for the stars!’ – Rachael Bermingham

Here are some tips to help you get to a happier place:

  1. Don’t overcommit yourself – leave yourself some buffer time in between appointments.
  2. Know your habits – if you are prone to running late, or taking longer at completing something – give yourself extra time to complete it or to get there – you know the saying ‘always under promise and over deliver’ – it’s no one’s fault except your own. Cranky retailers are usually a result of poor time management or hating what they’re doing and think that just because they put up with it that the rest of us have to suffer as well – wronnnggggg! Most switched on people can see the predicament they’re in and are intelligent enough to ………
  3. Take responsibility for your own actions.
  4. Chill out – when it comes time to take your last breath – are the things you’re getting irate about really going to be important??? Get over things – often the only person you’re hurting is yourself and those poor unfortunate people who cringe and want to escape the brunt of your rage – Get over it!
  5. Find an acceptable outlet for your anger – going off and dumping it on any other person or thing is simply not acceptable anymore – the smarter thing to do is to use all that emotion and channel it to something that serves you rather than sabotages you – think sport, think games, think …………
  6. Change jobs
  7. Go on a holiday
  8. Get some counselling – I usually suggest you see a psychologist/kinesiologist to bring up the reason for the anger (there is ALWAYS a reason in every case) and remove it. After all wouldn’t you (and everyone around you) much prefer to be living a fair happier, peaceful and relaxed life?
  9. Have a plan
  10. Get plenty of sleep, rest and time for you. Often a good night’s sleep does woooooonderrrrrrrrs!!!!!!!

Hopefully these tips will help you live a lot more peacefully.


Rachael  x

  • Your tips are great. I might have to print them off for my spouse to read too.


  • When I get angry at others I take some time to breathe and ask myself what am I actually angry about. Often I have too high expectations and I need to change that, then the reason to be angry goes. Great list of ideas for tackling anger, thanks


  • Some good tips – another may be not to have cranky, demanding toddlers in your vicinity!


  • Great tips! Anytime I start to get in that “unhappy place” I count my blessings – I sit and relax and make a mental list of all the things that are good in my life, and soon enough I’m content again!


  • Thanks for a great article.
    I know I need to do 10. more, and I am trying 5 by walking more.
    My problem is 1, but I am working on it.


  • Thanks for sharing this interesting article with good tips; I love the holiday tip; but if that is not an option, at least a day trip, as getting away can give incredible perspective and it allows reflection time. It is the perfect ‘chill out!’


  • nice tips Rachael . and they are a must for mums…especially the last one :) thanks for sharing


  • Continual anger can affect your health and well being so much, and nobody likes to spend time with a person who is angry about everything. However, anger is not a negative emotion. It is the emotion we have when important boundaries are crossed and it is reasonable and right to express the outrage or offence. I feel angry every time there is a report of vile acts perpetrated on children. That is a normal response. The next step is the important one -how we express our anger. Waiting till the heat of the moment is past takes self control and takes a lot of practice but is the best thing to do. Then we can do or say what needs to be done or said without making the situation worse.


  • I can’t be bothered being angry, consumes too much time and energy – I take a deep breath or two and do some housework – simples.


  • Great tips, we all have our meltdown times especially being mum and wife but these will help to hopefully reduce those moments


  • I certainly find myself extra angry when I feel like I’m constantly rushed! I need more buffer time!


  • Change something if your not happy!


  • Go on a holiday – okay!


  • thank you, I have struggled with desiring happiness all my life, and I will have to try my best to incorporate some of your tips


  • Good read thanks for the information


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