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Former House Rules couple Maddi and Lloyd Wright, welcomed their second baby boy Marlow to their family over a year ago in October 2016. Maddi opens up about the turning point that saved her sanity.

Maddi, from Queensland, recently opened up about some of the challenges she faced when her baby was newborn and admitted she regrets breastfeeding, shares Daily Mail.

‘I wish I never breastfed my baby,’ the mother-of-two wrote on Instagram.

‘A strong statement and many would disagree but here’s why… 3 weeks post stopping breastfeeding with my 4 month old I am a completely different person,’ the former reality star wrote.

‘I’m a better mum and better wife. I have more energy. I actually have gaps where bub is NOT on my body so I get to miss him a little. I have more time for my other son. I am more affectionate towards my husband.’

Maddi said she no longer ‘dreads’ going out in public and enjoys her clothes again as she is not ‘leaking everywhere’ or having to wear ‘uncomfortable maternity bras.’

‘I’m able to leave the house by myself without getting anxiety. I’m able to go to the gym again,’ she continued.

‘I know I will cop a lot of negative comments about this post but I think it’s important for mums to know that they have choices.

‘There are so many different ways to be a mum. But what many mums forget is that MUM HAS TO BE HAPPY TOO.’

I wish I never breastfed my baby. A strong statement and many would disagree but here’s why… 3 weeks post stopping breastfeeding with my 4 month old I am a completely different person. I’m a better mum and better wife. I have more energy. I actually have gaps where bub is NOT on my body so I get to miss him a little. I have more time for my other son. I am more affectionate towards my husband. I don’t dread going out in public. I enjoy my clothes again as I’m not leaking everywhere or having to wear uncomfortable maternity bras. I’m able to leave the house by myself without getting anxiety. I’m able to go to the gym again. I know I will cop alot of negative comments about this post but I think its important for mums to know that they have choices. There are so many different ways to be a mum. But what many mums forget is that MUM HAS TO BE HAPPY TOO. #breastfeeding #bottlefed #mum #baby

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Maddi, who shared an adorable snap of herself and Marlow alongside the post, was immediately flooded with support from other mums who felt the same way and thanked her for her honesty.

Her post has attracted nearly 3,500 likes on Instagram. 

Maddi also  shared in a different post, ‘Motherhood has taken a grenade, shoved it up my clacka and blown me into a million pieces. It has tested every fibre of my being. I’ve at times…many times…lost my sense of self,’ she wrote. ‘Often not recognising who I actually am anymore. Often wanting to run away and never come back. Often crying and not knowing why.

I look down at a body I barely recognize. And, to top it off, I often tell myself “geeze you’re a s**t mum”. ‘But today I realised, after getting up at 12:30am and 3am to feed bub and then 4:45am with my toddler that I can’t be half bad at motherhood. After an average of 4 hours sleep every night I literally spend every waking hour attending to my boys.’

She concluded by saying even though she wore her pyjamas all day and rocked ‘messy locks and swollen breasts’ she looks at her ‘stunning and happy boys’ and thinks ‘S**t woman, you must be doing something right.’

To say motherhood has changed me would be an understatement. Motherhood has taken a grenade, shoved it up my clacka and blown me into a million pieces. It has tested every fibre of my being. I’ve at times…many times…lost my sense of self. Often not recognizing who I actually am anymore. Often wanting to run away and never come back. Often crying and not knowing why. I look down at a body I barely recognize. And, to top it off, I often tell myself ‘geeze you’re a shit mum.’ But today I realised, after getting up at 12:30am and 3am to feed bub and then 4:45am with my toddler that I can’t be half bad at motherhood. After an average of 4 hours sleep every night I literally spend every waking hour attending to my boys. I even piss quickly so I can get on with things. So, as I sit here in my pjs in the middle of the day, messy locks, swollen breasts and hungry, looking at my two very stunning and happy boys, I think ‘shit woman, you must be doing something right.’ #mumlife #salutemums #imisshiphopmusic #truelove

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Maddi and Lloyd became household names after appearing on Channel Seven’s House Rules in 2014.

Can you relate to Maddi’s raw and honest post?

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  • Being a Mum, you need to do what is best for bub but also for yourself. Thank you for being honest about your feelings.

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  • Personally I can’t relate to Maddi’s post as I loved breastfeeding, but I understand her feelings and decision.

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  • Well done Maddi for honestly sharing your experience. You do what works for you honey. We all do our best and each of our experiences is different. I had to stop breastfeeding as my bub was starving, so it was out of necessity. It’s not how I imagined things would be, but when I saw how not breastfeeding made my boy happier, it’s all the info I needed.

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  • Everybody is different , people don’t have to be ashamed.If one thing doesn’t work for a person it’s better to give up.
    Anyway I enjoyed breastfeeding my baby , I was actually sad when it was over.

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  • I guess you have to do what you have to do if it is affecting your mental state but I breast fed and persevered even when it was tough because that’s what is ultimately best for bub. That being said my kids weren’t overly demanding feed wise so I guess I don’t know what it’s like to have a ‘cluster feeder’.

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  • Everyone is different and I would never say a bad word about a person who chooses not to breastfeed. I chose to breastfeed and loved every moment and was sad when they stopped wanting ‘boobie’. My friend on the other hand, felt repulsed by the thought of breastfeeding. We just need to be accepting that we are all different.

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  • This is rarely discussed but every word of it is true. For some the thought of stopping breast feeding terrifies them as they may think they will lose their bond with their little one. Some love it and are saddened that they have to stop because they love it. This statement reinforces that every mum is different and it is ok if you don’t want to do it any more or not even want to do it in the first place. I also think it is important for the child’s development that they move on to other feeding methods.

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  • Good on you! If baby is happy & healthy, who cares how they’re fed? Modern society puts way too much emphasis on breastfeeding whilst neglecting the mental health of mums who do not enjoy it.

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  • I wouldn’t say I enjoyed breast feeding my two children, but I knew it was best for them and sadly it’s not all about me anymore????

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  • I don’t get why if you can carry a baby for 9 months you can’t put aside another few months for breastfeeding? It is scientifically proven that breast milk is the best for baby, and you do need to take care of yourself by eating correctly and taking it easy, why can’t the gym wait? Sad that mothers are rushing to get back to their ‘life’ instead of concentrating on nourishment for themselves and their babies. Women in underdeveloped countries do okay with their normal lives whilst breast feeding for even longer. Are women getting weaker or more selfish? Formula milk is not human milk, and there is evidence that formula fed babies develop more allergies , get sick more often and gut problems later in life.

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  • Knowing your body limits, she did what was best for her and her family. Breastfeeding doesn’t work for everybody and that’s ok. Fed is best

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  • Well done for being honest breastfeeding isn’t for everyone
    And nobody should ever judge someone’s opinion for being honest

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  • It’s good to have people put this stuff out there so people know they aren’t alone. I desperately tried to breastfeed but even the lactation consultant couldn’t get my baby to latch. Not being able to breastfeed was heartbreaking and all I ever heard and read was how wonderful it was and how important it was for the baby. It was almost enough to break me. It’s so important that women hear about different experiences and know they aren’t alone.

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  • breastfeeding can be hard to do but it is selfless and benefits the baby so if you are able to do it, then you should. Maybe she would have developed depression if she kept on breastfeeding though

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  • Wow, isn’t it amazing how the same situation affects people so differently. I absolutely adored breast feeding and didn’t find any of these problems while doing it

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