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Devastated mum of two claims her five-year-old son was sexually assaulted by another child at an Adelaide kindergarten.

*TRIGGER warning, distressing content*

7 news reports, police investigated the allegations but no charges were laid because the accused boy is too young.

The boy told his mother (neither can be named) he was being bitten and hit by the other child but then the abuse escalated.

He revealed he’d been lured behind a shed where the other boy allegedly performed a sex act on him.

“He told me that the boy had made him pull down his pants because he wanted to play a game,” the boy’s mum said.

“I was in complete shock and disbelief thinking, ‘Is this really true?’”

The mother withdrew her son from the kindergarten and reported it to staff.

She said staff told her son “you need to make better friendships”, but claims the alleged abuser struck again with attacks on two more boys.

The kindergarten sent a letter home to parents asking them if their children had expressed concerns about inappropriate behaviour.

The accused has since moved kindergartens but the mother of the alleged victim wants assurances it won’t happen to another child.

She said she’s been told the boy will have a one-on-one carer wherever he goes.

The education department says staff have been given a refresher course in how to recognise sexual behaviour in pre-schoolers but the alleged victim’s mother said it’s too late for her son.

Every two hours in Australia, a child is sexually harmed, according to child protection advocacy group Bravehearts.

1 in 5 children in Australia will be sexually harmed in some way by their 18th birthday. That’s 59,000 Australian children each year.

Charges were recently dismissed against two 13 year old boys who were accused of sexually assaulting a six year old girl, because the court ruled they were too young to understand what they did was wrong. Read more on that HERE.

Tips for Parents

Based on Bravehearts’ Ditto Keep safe Adventure program, the 5 basic principles we need to teach our children (remember: it’s never too early to sow the seeds of personal safety) are:

1)  To trust their feelings and to distinguish between ‘yes’ and ‘no’ feelings
2)  To say ‘no’ to adults if they feel unsafe and unsure
3)  That they own their own bodies
4)  That nothing is so yucky that they can’t tell someone about it
5)  That if they feel unsafe or unsure to run and tell someone they trust.

We are all responsible to help change this statistic!

1800 Respect (1800 737 732) is a FREE, 24 hour sexual assault and domestic violence support.

While it can be confronting, it is wise to start having regular discussions early about ‘yes and no’ feelings with your child.

Share your comments below.

  • My heart goes out to the little children that this other child has targeted. It is so sad, and things like this should not occur. This should be brought to the attention of the appropriate government bodies and should be fully investigated, not just, the child who is accused of performing such unforgivable acts to be moved to another kindergarten. It is good that the little 5 year old was comfortable enough to tell his mum what happened.

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  • Very distressing that the solution was to move the accused to another kindergarten, where more kids will be targetted if more isn’t done. I seriously hope this child gets counselling. The bullying was bad enough, and to think the staff told the victim to just make better friendships!!!

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  • Those statistics are horrifying! That poor child and it also makes me wonder what the abuser had been exposed to himself to know about and want to do that to another child.

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  • What a scary world we live in! Who thinks up these dumb challenges anyway!? and the online predators – they need to get a real life and start contributing positively in the community instead of being disgusting.

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  • Very important to teach our children that our bodies are private and nobody should touch them.
    I always fear extra for my girl with Down syndrome, she doesn’t understand this principle (that our bodies are private and nobody should touch them) and yes and no feelings, she loves to touch herself and might love to be touched by others. It’s so scary to me !

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  • How very sad. I feel for the victims. What keeps nagging away in my mind is how the perpetrator knew about these sexual acts. Seems like further investigations need to be conducted until this issue has been completely gotten to the bottom of.

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  • Great tips! I can’t believe the statistics of children that are harmed by sexual abuse.

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  • All children need to learn to say no from an early age and also that our bodies are private so they don’t allow others to touch them, but also so they don’t try and touch others.

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  • This is heart breaking.. Not only for the damage it has done to the kids it happened to.. But also the kid that did this wrong act to other kids.. It makes me wonder what has happened to this boy for him to think it normal behaviour.. Hope he gets the help he needs to be able to see its wrong (and for what ever caused this behaviour in the first place dealt with….(he may also be a victim of someone else))

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  • If a 5 year old is a sexual preditor then its because he’s been absused himself. I really hope someone is looking into where he’s learned to do what he’s doing and he’s getting help along with his victims.


    • It’s what I am thinking too. There must be something going on in his house. Otherwise he would have never thought about such a terrible action!

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  • Absolutely absurd to expect and to tell a 5 year old child to make better friendships. Schools and centres need to train their staff in dealing with these issues. I do hope there is a successful intervention with the other child and follow up with the family.

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  • The staff seem to have reacted very Inadequately.

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  • What a stupid comment when the staff told the child to make better friendships! Really!!!
    The molester is in another school but the problem isn’t solved, is it?? What if he does it again in another school?

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