Devastated mum of two claims her five-year-old son was sexually assaulted by another child at an Adelaide kindergarten.
*TRIGGER warning, distressing content*
7 news reports, police investigated the allegations but no charges were laid because the accused boy is too young.
The boy told his mother (neither can be named) he was being bitten and hit by the other child but then the abuse escalated.
He revealed he’d been lured behind a shed where the other boy allegedly performed a sex act on him.
“He told me that the boy had made him pull down his pants because he wanted to play a game,” the boy’s mum said.
“I was in complete shock and disbelief thinking, ‘Is this really true?’”
The mother withdrew her son from the kindergarten and reported it to staff.
She said staff told her son “you need to make better friendships”, but claims the alleged abuser struck again with attacks on two more boys.
The kindergarten sent a letter home to parents asking them if their children had expressed concerns about inappropriate behaviour.
The accused has since moved kindergartens but the mother of the alleged victim wants assurances it won’t happen to another child.
She said she’s been told the boy will have a one-on-one carer wherever he goes.
The education department says staff have been given a refresher course in how to recognise sexual behaviour in pre-schoolers but the alleged victim’s mother said it’s too late for her son.
Every two hours in Australia, a child is sexually harmed, according to child protection advocacy group Bravehearts.
1 in 5 children in Australia will be sexually harmed in some way by their 18th birthday. That’s 59,000 Australian children each year.
Charges were recently dismissed against two 13 year old boys who were accused of sexually assaulting a six year old girl, because the court ruled they were too young to understand what they did was wrong. Read more on that HERE.
Tips for Parents
Based on Bravehearts’ Ditto Keep safe Adventure program, the 5 basic principles we need to teach our children (remember: it’s never too early to sow the seeds of personal safety) are:
1) To trust their feelings and to distinguish between ‘yes’ and ‘no’ feelings
2) To say ‘no’ to adults if they feel unsafe and unsure
3) That they own their own bodies
4) That nothing is so yucky that they can’t tell someone about it
5) That if they feel unsafe or unsure to run and tell someone they trust.
We are all responsible to help change this statistic!
1800 Respect (1800 737 732) is a FREE, 24 hour sexual assault and domestic violence support.
While it can be confronting, it is wise to start having regular discussions early about ‘yes and no’ feelings with your child.
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