I am sure many of us read the above question and thought ‘yes’ then probably yawn and feel a sense of disappointment in ourselves for not being in the mood or too tired for Sex.

Do you feel pressure to make love more than you want to? Do you wonder why your libido isn’t as active as your partners? Do you feel like you plan for sex to try and be in the mood? Do you feel like you disappoint your partner with your lack of libido?

If you say yes to any of these questions then please keep reading, I can help you to ease the pressure you put on yourself and to activate and enjoy a blossoming libido!

The first thing is to stop living in denial. Acceptance, when we have any problem in our lives, is the first step to healing.

Accept that for some reason your mojo has gone on a holiday and forgotten to take you!

Accept that it is ok that your libido has taken a backseat in your relationship. Accept you don’t feel like having sex three times per day like your partner. For whatever reason or reasons, your other life priorities have taken over such as kids, work or just life in general. Once you accept, yes I currently have a low libido then you start to get somewhere.

I feel it very important now to mention to be very careful of ‘the blame game’. Yes, you know what I mean. Your libido is yours, no one elses. So next time you think or go to tell a story that points the finger at someone else please stop and remember the word, acceptance. Your libido, not your partners, ALL YOURS!

So now we have accepted, you are ready to take action. The next step is to spend time thinking about what YOU (not your partner) actually like/love about sex or I like to call lovemaking. Is it the tenderness? The closeness to another soul? Does it make you feel dominant? Or alive? Or downright dirty?! This is so important!

Women have more of a mind/spirit connection to love making.

So once you have really thought about what you like/love about lovemaking next is to bring these thoughts into a weekly routine of thinking.

A weekly routine so to speak on thoughts about what you like/love about lovemaking! Haha sounds hilarious right. But no, trust me the more you think of it the more thoughts manifest and let me tell you, your missing mojo starts to stir again within you.

I suggest when you wake in the morning spend a couple of minutes thinking about some lovely sex memories or fantasies and then again perhaps once during the day then when you go to bed at night. Think sex!

The next step in activating a blossoming libido is to make yourself feel like a goddess!

Treat yourself to a new haircut, wax your sexy bits, manicure/pedicure whatever makes you look in the mirror and think, whoa baby I’m hot!

Wear clothes that accentuate your best body features. I know when I am feeling like a goddess I add lots of accessories to my look. It makes me feel really feminine, funky and really confident in myself. And yes all this from some accessories. We are all wonderfully different so do what makes you feel like the goddess you are.

There are some really effective natural libido herbs that have been used for thousands and thousands of years.

You are now ready!  Enjoy all your delicious lovemaking over the next few weeks!

Have you ever overcome your low libido, share how you did it in the comments below.

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  • I was just too tired but I found improving my diet and taking a multi vitamin helped.


  • Having someone to be intimate with would be my first step!!


  • Suffering hip pain doesn’t help for sure.


  • Yes always feeling tired so my mum suggested I might be low in iron. So I started taking an iron supplement and now I feel so much better and with a lot more energy. Which in turn is slowly bringing my libido back.


  • I’ve always had a higher libido than any of my partners. The only time I’ve gone off sex was when I found out my partner at the time was cheating on me AND watching a lot of porn, despite my being available for sex and willing to try whatever he wanted. That made me lose interest in him. Also his lack of personal hygiene. It showed a lack of respect for me.


  • I stopped wanting to have sex because it was so painful for me (down there). I tried to hide it from my late husband but when he realised what he was putting me through we practically stopped altogether. I always felt guilty and tried to explain to him it was my body parts that were the problem not his techniques. I miss him so much it hurts.


  • Yes only sometimes.It’s always tired at the end of the day.


  • Definitely haven’t really been interested since I fell pregnant with my daughter. I really enjoyed it beforehand, however, the mojo has just gone. It wasn’t because I fell pregnant, it was just hormones changing and life changing and me getting older that stopped me wanting it. Every so often, yes I get the urge, but definitely nowhere near as much as before.


  • Me no problem
    Hubby yes he has arthritis in his hip which is causing a lot problems for him as he’s in pain all the time and works hard job he’s concretor, he’s tired all the time as well so reading this article was very interesting to read. I’ve given up trying cause it can be so painful for him

    • Aw bless him ! Good on you for being so considerate towards him.


  • Always tired!!


  • Certain medications can also cause low libido – it’s the unfortunate pay off to fix one issue, that derails another. And then, there’s perimenopause. Not fair!


  • Guess it all depends on how old you are and how much you want to please your partner.
    Its a lovely post – but we all have to decide for ourselves how we should react


  • It’s not that I’m not interested but often am just too tired.


  • have been struggling with this for a while, makes it hard when the partner is not happy about it


  • Small children and a busy life can certainly impact our libido, don’t underestimate hormonal changes as well. It’s the question if a low libido is a problem. There are many ways we can express our love.


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