I am sure many of us read the above question and thought ‘yes’ then probably yawn and feel a sense of disappointment in ourselves for not being in the mood or too tired for Sex.

Do you feel pressure to make love more than you want to? Do you wonder why your libido isn’t as active as your partners? Do you feel like you plan for sex to try and be in the mood? Do you feel like you disappoint your partner with your lack of libido?

If you say yes to any of these questions then please keep reading, I can help you to ease the pressure you put on yourself and to activate and enjoy a blossoming libido!

The first thing is to stop living in denial. Acceptance, when we have any problem in our lives, is the first step to healing.

Accept that for some reason your mojo has gone on a holiday and forgotten to take you!

Accept that it is ok that your libido has taken a backseat in your relationship. Accept you don’t feel like having sex three times per day like your partner. For whatever reason or reasons, your other life priorities have taken over such as kids, work or just life in general. Once you accept, yes I currently have a low libido then you start to get somewhere.

I feel it very important now to mention to be very careful of ‘the blame game’. Yes, you know what I mean. Your libido is yours, no one elses. So next time you think or go to tell a story that points the finger at someone else please stop and remember the word, acceptance. Your libido, not your partners, ALL YOURS!

So now we have accepted, you are ready to take action. The next step is to spend time thinking about what YOU (not your partner) actually like/love about sex or I like to call lovemaking. Is it the tenderness? The closeness to another soul? Does it make you feel dominant? Or alive? Or downright dirty?! This is so important!

Women have more of a mind/spirit connection to love making.

So once you have really thought about what you like/love about lovemaking next is to bring these thoughts into a weekly routine of thinking.

A weekly routine so to speak on thoughts about what you like/love about lovemaking! Haha sounds hilarious right. But no, trust me the more you think of it the more thoughts manifest and let me tell you, your missing mojo starts to stir again within you.

I suggest when you wake in the morning spend a couple of minutes thinking about some lovely sex memories or fantasies and then again perhaps once during the day then when you go to bed at night. Think sex!

The next step in activating a blossoming libido is to make yourself feel like a goddess!

Treat yourself to a new haircut, wax your sexy bits, manicure/pedicure whatever makes you look in the mirror and think, whoa baby I’m hot!

Wear clothes that accentuate your best body features. I know when I am feeling like a goddess I add lots of accessories to my look. It makes me feel really feminine, funky and really confident in myself. And yes all this from some accessories. We are all wonderfully different so do what makes you feel like the goddess you are.

There are some really effective natural libido herbs that have been used for thousands and thousands of years.

You are now ready!  Enjoy all your delicious lovemaking over the next few weeks!

Have you ever overcome your low libido, share how you did it in the comments below.

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  • I think we have all had these moments


  • I totally agree with that when you look good then you feel good and sexy enough to want to have sex cos you are confident and know that you are able to charm him ???? also having enough sleep and when your hubby does stuff like help around the house or take the baby for a walk, give you some time to yourself so you can relax and enjoy some pastimes – that helps so much – and is a hint to them if they want it ????


  • Watching Bridgerton puts me in the mood…especially from episode 4 onwards =)

    All seriousness, we have to set/make time for it otherwise we would be in our own world watching our own shows and before you know it, it’s late and we are too tired to do anything but sleep.


  • Great little read. Love this idea of thinking about it more. We are always so busy thinking and worrying about the kids, finances etc we kinda lose our thoughts on this one.


  • Great article unfortunately it’s the other way around in our house.


  • I think it also helps if you’re not so tired – when hubby helps out around the house!


  • Good article and certainly a subject that is important for a lot of couples.


  • For us it’s usually medical issues or body confidence that puts us off.


  • I used to be the one to initiate all the time. Had baby #2 and now just the thought is exhausting.
    I know its all temporary. Hopefully a nap will fix it ????


  • My libido left after baby no 1, 2 more and 8 years later, still not there really. Confidence, is a huge thing for me but I find a bit of exercise and learning to love my body is helping. We change after having kids, mentally, and physically, that adjustment was hard for me. Getting there slowly ????


  • I regularly feel this way. I tend to ebb and flow, phases of wanting lots of sex and phases of not wanting it


  • Best advice I can give is once you’ve taken the step and done the deed, don’t leave it for a couple of weeks thinking I’ve done my wifely duty if you’re still not feeling it. Try really hard every few days to keep the momentum going and initiate (or respond) and you’ll feel your attitude changing. The more you do it, the more you want to do it!


  • Both my hubby and I are on anti depressants and our libido has disappeared. I’m hoping this is only temporary because we are still young.


  • Actually, I just need some more help around the house and every day life to be in the mood


  • Whenever I am pregnant I am never in the mood.
    I think because I’m so uncomfortable with how heavy my belly is, it’s hard to move let alone have sex.
    I think whenever I buy a new piece of lingerie it puts me in a better mood.


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