When is comes to stressful situations, choosing a baby’s name is right up there with putting together IKEA flatpack.

So imagine after finally coming up with both the first and middle names for your bub, your mate decides to use the names for his own baby, which is due before yours. Savage.

A dad-to-be has shared his predicament, after one of his best mates pinched his daughter’s name. Not just any friend – the man he’d chosen to be his future daughter’s godfather.

“My girlfriend became pregnant with my first daughter a few months back,” the expecting dad explained on reddit. “We were so happy because we both have wanted a daughter and thought for a long time about what to name her. We decided on a name which we both loved and wanted to keep it a secret. We decided to tell one of our mutual friends as he was to be the godfather of our daughter.”

Everything seemed pretty hunky dory. Until the dad-to-be discovered the other couple is also pregnant, and due a little earlier.

“He came forward and said that they were going to name her the same first and middle name that me and my girlfriend had come up with. His logic was that his daughter was going to be born first so he should have the name. Me and my girlfriend thought for days and weeks to come up with a name that was special to us and suited her. I politely asked him to please change the name as we had come up with it and had set a name far before him. He said that I was being unreasonable and that I was in the wrong.”

The confused future daddy says his mate has since told him that they are going ahead with using the name, and he’ll just have to find a different one, as he doesn’t want the girls to have the same names.

“We are no longer speaking and he is no longer a godfather. And it turns out we’re having twins. A boy and a girl.”

What would you do in this situation? Would you still use the names you fell in love with?

  • It sounds wise not to associate with these people anymore. They don’t respect each other or care about the other couple.


  • Yes i would use the same name.It is ok to have same name but different children.At school you will find same name kids in one class.


  • This is exactly why you don’t tell anyone unless you know you’re not having anymore kids and the person you tell while you are pregnant isn’t pregnant


  • Ooh, this is why you don’t tell anyone. This is a common situation and as a result we chose not to tell anyone.


  • Not mate-like behaviour.
    In his shoes I’d feel similar…i think i’d still use the names I picked – unless on meeting my babies they didnt suit them.
    But a ‘mate’ taking both names and then saying I couldnt use them…that’s no mate in my eyes, better off without him.


  • I have a friend who hadn’t told anyone her baby name, and another friend inadvertently used it a month before she could… she eventually decided to use it anyway, and no-one has any problems.


  • That’s so unfair of him to do that to you, best keep every name a secret because there are nasty people in the world who do this


  • Don’t see any problem, many people have the same names, as long as you do not have the same surname then just use the names you chose.


  • I’d be mad too – more so with this ‘mate’ saying he’s naming his child the exact same first & middle names AND then telling the father he can’t use it!! No way!!! That’s just not on.
    Yes lots of kids have the same name. And it is no issue. But to take both the first and middle name – what nerve of him.
    I think the father and mum should keep and should name their daughter what they had planned – as it was a first & middle name they’d thought a lot about, picked and obviously meant a lot to them. And given they’re not friends anymore then their kids won’t know each other.
    And the friendship – yeah it’d be gone if it were me too. Not so much about kids having the same name – but the ‘mate’ having the nerve to say he’s using both names & then saying the father who had shared the names can’t use them cos his kid is being born first.
    Petty people & people who don’t think about others, I don’t need in my life, so the friendship would be over with me as well.
    All the best and congrats on having twins!


  • I would just use the same names I’d picked and tell people that I chose them first and he stole them.


  • I would still name my baby the name I loved and picked for my child. You may not be friends now but how silly to fall out over this. Your children may have the same name so what! My best friend I went to school with has the same name as me we are still friends. Kids go to pre school and school and have classmates with the same name. It will all work out in the long run!


  • obviously the friend couldnt think for himself to copy the name and the reason was pathetic. Definately dont need friends like that in your life


  • I think the mate (haha) is in the wrong, but no matter, he’s out of the picture and the couple have doubled their joy with twins.


  • This is why you should just have a short list of names you like and then decide on the big day when you meet your baby. That being said, it is pretty harsh what the friend has done but I don’t think it’s something to not speak over. Be mad, yes, but both parties need to forgive and move on.


  • I can’t understand why people choose to do that. I had a name I would have loved to have used for my daughter but a family friends daughter used it (she didn’t know I liked the name) so I just picked something else. We ended up not using the name we had ready as it didn’t suit her when we finally meet her


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