Sure, periods are natural and just a part of life but they can also be overwhelming and even scary for young girls. It’s important to approach your daughter’s first period talk with sensitivity and confidence. We’ve got all the tips you need to have ‘the chat’.
Elizabeth Chapman, the mother of 3 teenage daughters, gives the low down of how to approach that first period talk.
If your tween has started being grumpy for no apparent reason, answering back, or crying and doing a lot of extra sleeping, it’s a sign that their hormones have really kicked in and they’re in the early stages of puberty.
And if you haven’t had a conversation about periods with your tween yet, then you need to. Otherwise they will hear about it on the playground and you have no control over what they are told.
Don’t Go In All Heavy And Serious
The first period can start anytime between 8 – 14 years, with the average age being 12. Just keep the chat light and matter-of-fact. You can add lots of little conversations into everyday situations to build on the ‘first period talk’.
The first signs can come long before the moods come and include body odour (particularly underarms), break-outs or tiny spots on their face. Small breast buds develop and pubic hair starts growing. Start by teaching proper body hygiene. Encourage them to shower daily, focusing on their face, underarms and vulva.
You may notice a light discharge on your tweens underwear (clear or white). This usually occurs around ovulation and your tweens body may start cycling for 3 to 12 months before their first actual ‘blood discharg’’ period. This is all normal. Casually point it out to them. And mood changes, headaches and tummy cramps (PMS) may accompany this cycling, so encourage your tween to take note of the pattern.
First Period Survival Kit
An easy way to introduce sanitary items to the conversation is to leave a box of tampons, or a pad or your menstrual cup out and let the questions come. And then make a ‘First Period Survival Kit’ together. This is essential! You’ll need one for home and one for the school bag. A pencil case or small make-up bag will do the trick and should include; a spare pair of underwear, a pad (disposable or cloth) or a pair of period underwear. Talk about how to use the products and go through what they would do if they got their first period at school or a friend’s place or while you were at work or away.
Make sure you cover all the options when talking to your tween about sanitary products and allow them to own their period by choosing the products they want to use. Modern cloth pads and Period underwear are brilliant for younger tweens and offer sustainable options that will save a fortune in the long term. Menstrual cups are suitable for teens who are more confident with their period and can take a few cycles to master.
Remember to talk to your tween about periods in a factual and positive manner, as this will build confidence and normalises their attitude towards menstruating and their changing body.
How would/did you approach that first period talk? Tell us in the comments below.