A dad-to-be says the names his girlfriend wants to give their twins are ‘horrible’ and will lead to them being bullied.

The 24-year-old first-time-dad says his 24-year-old girlfriend unexpectedly fell pregnant seven months ago, and they’re expecting twin boys.

“We did not plan this, but we are committed to giving our babies the best life we can,” he explained on reddit. “She has told me from the beginning that she gets the say in their names because she is the one carrying the babies. I don’t think that is fair. Her names are horrible.

“She wants to name them Havoc and Kaos. I haven’t heard of such bad names in a long time. I told her I am worried this will have our boys be bullied and hurt them when they are applying for jobs. She told me that she wants trendy names and the babies to be unique.”

The frustrated dad-to-be says he things his boys can still be unique, even with more ‘normal’ names.

“She called me controlling and a shi**y boyfriend. I called my sisters and they agree that the name should be her choice since she is the pregnant one. Am I the a**hole?”

What do you think of these twin names? And what should this dad do? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below. 

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  • I think it’s a decision that you both need to agree on!


  • I have to agree, not the best name choices. I have to disagree that the name choice is solely up to mum. I think both parents should agree on baby names


  • Oh no these babies should not be called that! Poor kids!


  • When I saw what she wanted to name the twins I thought she would have been a 15-16yo not 24. Are you sure she’s not pulling your leg? I always thought that choosing names should be the couples choice, something you both agree on. At least when they get older they can legally change their names so it won’t be a problem when they are old enough to look for a job. You should explain to her that they could grow to hate her for giving them those names.


  • maybe back to the drawing board?


  • Haha.. I think the names are hilarious.


  • I think its very unusual for those names. I hope they arent teased


  • Agree with hubby here. Those names are awful. And I’m sorry both parents need to have a say in the names, just because mum is carrying them doesn’t give her the rights to soley name them. It takes 2 to create them.


  • Hmmmm, okay straight off the bat I agree with a lot of other comments here, they are awful names that will incite a lot of pre-prejudice and the spelling is really naff too. They dont have positive connotations.
    I’m a twin mum, and I get her feeling of ‘i carried them, it was tough on my body, i get a strong say in the naming ‘ (I named mine.) However , it does take 2 to make a baby or in this case, 2, so the mum needs to think of the kids first, and not her ego. The whole ‘unique’ name fetish is so vain and naff…. you need to advocate for your kids because the mum to be here is just thinking of herself. Try and reach a compromise, and suggest it as a middle name, but to give yr kids the best start in life, dont saddle them with a burden from the get-go.
    Awful, awful names!!!


  • Oh my god !! You are not the problem here AT ALL !!
    Those names ARE horrible and definitely not nice they both have very NEGATIVE Connotations towards them. Definitely not ideal for the future either you’re so right, thinking that way. Parenthood & partnerships are all about compromise & balance, if never do something that my husband wasn’t happy with or bring other people into a personal choice like that for back up. It’s between my husband and I. Best of luck I hope something makes her see sense.


  • How about a compromise? Choose a first name you both agree on and list “unique” names as their middle name.


  • Firstly the father is not being unreasonable at all. He’s the father and as one of the parents has every say in what his twins will be named. The girlfriend and the sisters need a reality check and stop making it seem the girlfriend made those babies on her own. My hubby and I would write our choices down on a list and then swap lists and ticked the names we liked on each other’s list and decided on our 5 kids names this way. It saddens me how this dad is being made to feel excluded from deciding on his own children’s names. Women like her need to stop acting like they make kids on their own. It’s not possible without a father and therefore both parents should have an input into what names their kids are going to have and how they are raised. Best of luck to dad to be in getting those silly names changed. There are far more unique and original names then Havoc and Kaos, and they won’t create anywhere near as much heartache for these poor babies as these terrible names will.


  • Think the names she has chosen will leave the poor twins living in terror. Hopefully she will compromise when the hormones stop raging so much. And I don’t think the dad is an a**hole at all – he is standing by his partner and that counts for a lot!


  • I have B/G Twins. I named them, but there dad did veto a couple of my choices. And I respected his opinion. I gave them his last name.


  • Just because your carrying the baby does not mean you are the ONLY person who can name them, also, they are ridiculous names.


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