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There are men and there are women. Two genders, right?

It’s a bit of a generalisation but while most cultures have these two genders, did you know there are some societies that have five or more?

So when it comes to the “me man, me hunt, you woman you look after the babies, do the washing, do the dishes, do the vacuuming, do the shopping blah blah blah” where do those genders fit in?

Is there one gender for doing those weird in between gender tasks like emptying the cat trays?

Who’s to blame for gender stereotypes? Because if you know, point me at them, they deserve a Jean Claude Van Damn round-house kick to the face.

From my observations, there seems to be a few schools of thought on the matter.

There’s the acceptance of these tasks that come with your gender, those that refuse and those that aren’t fussed. I am the latter. For me, minus the washing, the dishes, the vacuuming and all other domestic chores, looking after one or more babies is more than a full time job.

At least at work you get sick leave, annual leave and at least an hour or two to do no work at all and skive on Facebook.

I’m not saying for one minute that I won’t ever been doing any more domestic chores but relationships are also called partnerships for a reason.

If one person works away from the house and one person works in the house looking after the baby, domestic chores should be equally split down the middle.

That means the “where’s my dinner” argument is invalid.

If the baby hasn’t had a nap all day, you’ve been shit on twice, had Mormons to shoe away and the cat has vomited on the carpet, you may not have had time to prepare a steak dinner.

Having a new baby only seems to compound the gender stereotypes as it’s very often the woman who has to take time off from work to look after the Bub for a variety of reasons.

Perhaps you exclusively breast feed. Perhaps your partner earns better money so it makes better financial sense. Perhaps, even if you’re the one who earns more money, your partner doesn’t want to stay home.

Whatever your reasons, if the expectations are set early on, you may be in for an uphill battle where every day you’re fighting socks, dishes and resentment.

What do you think?

Do you think it’s fair the domestic chores should rest with the person who stays at home with the baby?

Are you happy to take on these additional responsibilities by yourself or do you split them with your Partner?

Does your partner do their share willingly?

  • We share the chores and it work’s for us!

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  • Even with both of us at work, the household chores still mainly falls on me. I don’t understand how that works

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  • I think they should help out as for most mums its 24/7 so even if it is a little tidy up here and there it helps us mums out.

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  • Well me and hubby work together. And I still do all the cooking and cleaning. I enjoy the cooking but cleaning ….It would be nice to have some help on occasion.

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  • My partner does not share the household chores at all. He makes every excuse under the sun not to do the housework.

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  • I just skipped the whole partner thing and had my children on my own.

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  • I hate this stereotype, because even if the man goes to work to bring home the pay cheque and the woman stays home, she’s working too. I don’t believe that a woman should do everything for her husband either, just because he works. I have found that women who do this make there husbands lazy and I think that the men should help out more.


    • no co-operate that is the way to stay happy and married

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  • much respect to the single mums that don’t even get to have a choice

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  • Being a single Mum you have to do it all yourself. Sometimes it gets overwhelming but you always feel proud of keeping it altogether.

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  • ha ha still are ,en out there like this hey sad…..

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  • I know a Dad who sometimes cooks the meals, loads and unloads the dishwasher, does some of the washing including putting it in the clothes dryer and getting it out when dry. He also sometimes sorts it but doesn’t have time to put all of it away. About the only thing he doesn’t do is the house cleaning very often. Both parents doing shift work and one parent trying to keep the younger one quiet while the other sleeps sometimes restricts some of the chores.

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  • I wish my husband would help..he does sometimes with the dishes but i would love him too cook sometimes. Its always me and we both work long hours. :(

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  • My husband does the dishes which is a great help already.

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  • I don’t think the cleaning should lie solely with one person. I’m very lucky that my husband has completely taken over the cooking side of things.. I do the meal plans & shopping and a large proportion of the cleaning but I don’t have to worry about getting food on the table. He works full time & I work part time.

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  • I don’t get it from Dad, I get it from the kids aged 2 and 7.

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