such a heart breaking article to read – I can imagine and relate to some of the feelings this lady has talked about so openly here.
We (as women) should never ever judge or condemn a person if they cannot breast feed for what ever reason – person, medical, religious etc. Having a new born baby is already a stressful situation especially if it’s your first and there is so much to learn and navigate and feel that even the smallest nasty comment can start an internal downward spiral in a mum.
We (as women) should be supportive no matter what our own feeding beliefs are. I honestly support every mum regardless of how they choose to feed their baby. I couldn’t breast feed my first born as she had so much trouble latching on and there was so much stress and tension as everyone offered advice, solutions etc. If the lactation nurse couldn’t get her on and to stay on then we were going to have all sorts of drama’s – so I chose to express and bottle feed. It relieved the stress involved in feeding times and made for a much happier mother/daughter bonding time. Eventually though my milk dried up and we had to switch to formula – then people started pressuring me to breast feed for as long as I can – hard to when your milk has already dried up and it’s not replenishing!
My second breastfed like a charm, and whilst that was great the subsequent not wanting to lay down (ever!) took it’s toll as well until we got her onto formula which settled her tummy and made her a much happier baby.
So each mother/baby combo is different and so individual that we really just need to support as much as we can each new mum on their journey rather than making them feel horrible.
Published 20th November 2019