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A Victorian mother has been “overwhelmed” by the outpouring of support she’s received since she went public with her daughter’s horrific story.

Cassidy Trevan was just 13 years old when she was led to a house in Springvale, Melbourne in February 2014 and raped by two teenage boys.

The rape was orchestrated by girls at Cassidy’s school in south-east Melbourne who had bullied her for her entire first year at high school.

Less than two years later Cassidy took her own life in December 2015.

After bravely telling Cassidy’s story to Nine.com.au last week, her mother Linda Trevan said she had been taken aback by the thousands of messages she’d received from all over the world.

“I had no idea of the amount of support and media coverage it would attract. It’s all a bit overwhelming to be honest, and very humbling,” she said.

In the months before her death, Cassidy had been writing a letter to the students at her former school, telling them about her rape and warning them about how far bullying could go.

Ms Trevan found the unfinished letter on Cassidy’s laptop days after she died.

“I just wanted to finish off what Cass started and wasn’t able to finish, and I’ve realised she couldn’t have coped with all this attention, it’s been overwhelming even for me,” Ms Trevan said.

Ms Trevan said she had been receiving 100 new personal message requests everyday and was touched by the support.

“I want to thank each and every one of you for your shares, comments, PMs, support and sympathy messages,” she said.

“Nobody should have to go through bullying or rape, and no parent should have to go through the pain and heartache I’ll always feel for the loss of my precious child. I just miss Cassidy so much.”

Ms Trevan said she was determined to spread the message about bullying.

“Bullying isn’t a game, it isn’t entertainment, it kills,” she said.

As for Cassidy’s bullies, Ms Trevan said they may have escaped punishment but they would never escape the knowledge of what they had done to her only child.

“You will have this on your conscience for the rest of your lives. Every relationship you have, if you have children, you are going to have to decide whether you tell them what you did, the damage you caused, and you are going to have to live with it,” she said.

“You can either raise your own children as bullies, or you can learn from what you did, and help spread the anti-bullying message.”

Readers seeking support and information about suicide prevention can contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.

What parents can do if their child is being bullied

Parents whose suspicions that their child is being bullied have been confirmed need to take action in order to help the child or adolescent deal with the problem in the right way.

  • Encourage the child to talk about it. Often, the problem seems overwhelming because they can’t imagine anyone ever understanding how they feel. Parents who have been bullied can show kids that it is possible to get through the situation and come out okay.
  • Don’t tell the child to ‘toughen up’ or just deal with the situation. Bullying is unacceptable and needs to be dealt with.
  • Praise the child for being brave enough to discuss the situation. Offer advice on how to handle the bullying.
  • Speak to the teacher about the situation. With younger kids, a change in seating in the classroom or extra monitoring at break times can be all that is needed to end the problem. Chances are if one child is being bullied, there are other victims, too.
  • Take all threats of violence against the child seriously. If a teen is being bullied, parents may have to involve the police if the bully has threatened to harm or kill the victim.
  • Encouraging the child who is being bullied to learn new coping techniques is also useful. Some helpful tips parents can offer their children are:
  • Use the buddy system. Stay in groups and stick with friends who support the child.
  • Ignore the bully. Giving them a reaction also gives them power, and bullies often lose interest when they don’t get the reaction they want.
  • Talk about it. Tell kids to speak to a trusted adult if they are being bullied at school or anywhere else.

More useful information available here.

Our thoughts are with Ms Trevan and her family.

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  • When will it get through to people that it is not okay? These bullies need education and to learn about consequences!

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  • wow what a sad story. poor kid! i wonder how those bullies feel now! they have completely destroyed a person!

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  • So sad, so wrong !
    Thank you Ms Trevan to finish off what Cassidy started, very brave ! I hope and pray the messages you receive on this post are of comfort to you and that this post will stir us up to raise our kids to be respectful and to be encouragers instead of bullies.

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  • Such a beautiful young lady that did not deserve this treatment from bullies,my thoughts and prayers are with her family.

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  • I know a young girl who was bullied by another primary school child – a boy. He was dmeanding that she steal cigarettes from her Mum. Her younger sister made it known. Their parents went to hthe school the next week as they found out on a Saturday. Physical Bullying can also result in death caused by the bully actually assaulting the victim. There has been a few case of that reported too.

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