Mum has lived with my adult son and I for three years (since Dad passed). She decided in November to move into our holiday home – a very basic early 70’s property two states away… Mum is almost 80, a little wobbly, but perfectly capable of making decisions. Her theory, she went from her childhood home, to her marriage home, then living with us. She wanted to be free.
It was so hard for me to let her go – what if something happens? I also felt terribly guilty, that we had done something wrong to make it too challenging to live with us. It was a real grieving process. It was an event I could not control – just support.
She is totally happy, living simply with ocean views and no expectations. She has earned that right. Mum accepts it may not be for a long time, but she is going to relish her freedom whilst she can.
For me, it was a real learning. Hard to let go, but she is so very happy, and at the end of the day that is what matters.
Love you Mum – miss you lots, but admire your courage and independence xxx
Posted by coastalkaryn, 15th December 2015