Grandparents fear today’s children are doomed!

A majority of grandparents surveyed in The Australian Seniors Series: Raising Modern Australia believe children are doomed because of modern parenting styles, with 81 per cent fearing for the future happiness of their grandchildren.

The survey of 1000 grandparents also found nearly three in five believe parenting styles have become somewhat or considerably worse since they were raising children, shared Illawarra mercury.

More than half believe their grandchildren will be much less capable, self-sufficient, resilient, disciplined and have much less moral character.

“They also believe their grandchildren will be negatively impacted by the praise and reward-inspired culture that exists today,” the survey said.

The survey also found parents believe grandparents waved off concerns about dietary requirements and personal safety for children too easily.

When Lynette Honeysett was a child in the 1960s, discipline was swift and sometimes harsh.

“We got smacked with a wooden spoon if we were naughty, and it happened on a regular basis,” she said. “I can remember copping quite a few hidings.”

Ms Honeysett said she believed parents paid too much attention to their smartphones when they were with their children: “It’s a particular bugbear of mine. I say to Joel ‘Get off your phone’.”

She also said we need to avoid helicopter parenting.

“Let her run, fall over,” she said. “If she breaks an arm, she’s going to learn a lesson that way.”

However Dr Justin Coulson is concerned that the ongoing attitude of  “well I turned out okay“ is really not helping.

“We think we turned out okay because we don’t know how we might have turned out had things been different.

“Do you really think that being yelled at or hit with a wooden spoon is going to create better people? I don’t. My feeling is that more kindness will lead to so many improved outcomes for our children. There is so much pain in the world. Better parenting can reduce that pain.”

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  • I’m not overly concerned about the less harsh forms of discipline, if they work great…but it does concern me how many kids aren’t allowed to run around …I find many young kids now days have a negative look on life in general…my 7yr old grandson has talked about dying or it would be better I he was dead….along with other ‘hard life’ comments yet he has so much love and toys etc….where does it come from?

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  • I am old school for a younger mum and kind of agree.

    I think alot of parents these days do not discipline their children well enough and they are rude & disrespectful compared to older generations.

    I used to get the wooden spoon etc myself growing up which I don’t agree with and would not do BUT it did work cos I didn’t want to cop it again so was cautious of what I did. I think there needs to be a balance & kids should still get praised but disciplined and know their are consequences for their actions.

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  • I don’t think it matters what era, parents will always be judged. Mothers are sometimes one another worst enemies. Let’s support one another and rather than judge!

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  • I’m sure our grandparents thought the same things.

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  • I’m a little old school with my parenting but I also believe some boundaries and discipline help and a little freedom to learn their own lessons

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  • My daughter’s name is Aurora but from about 2 hours after birth we started calling her Rory. She often gets called Roars by people close to her and I call her Roars Grace (Grace being her middle name) . But if you ask her what her name is she always says Aurora and that is how she has learnt to write her name.

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  • I also agree with mom418599 and Mum2archer different time now.

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  • Let kids be kids, they will make mistakes and learn from them.

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  • I think the problem is that some people went from one extreme to the other. I think there is a happy and healthy balance to be made. I do not believe that neglect or abuse is ever warranted even in the name of “teaching a lesson.”

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  • I agree with letting kids run fast, balance on beems and learn how to handle their bodies. Some things we know different so we do different. Some things we need to listen to wisdom passed down.

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  • This is tough really, how do you compare apples and oranges? Different time, different society. I do agree there is less resilience and more kids that rely on their parents for everything and have little to no discipline


    • I agree with you! The parenting style has changed because society has changed and the time has changed. It’s not easy to compare the two parenting styles because things are so different now

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  • I think alot of the time we parents are concerned about how others view us and our discipline approach. I will growl at my children, if I have to I will smack them. I do however ensure that I explain why they got in to trouble and then how to make sure they don’t get into trouble again. Sometimes it will be as simple as changing the wording of what they have said to someone especially if it hurt someone’s feelings.

    I think we helicopter more because the media now shares every attempt at kidnapping or missing kid stories so we are more protective of our kids. When I was a kid, I would leave the house after breakfast on my bike with my friends and be home in time for dinner, my mum wouldn’t know where I was because we didn’t have phones to call home, and I can honestly say I would be extremely reluctant to let my daughters do this even with their mobile phones because I don’t trust the kind of society we have right now – too many known cases of horrible things happening to kids that I do not wish to expose my girls to.

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  • When we know better we do better. And our kids will probably learn from us and do better again

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  • We live in a very different environment these days than what our parents and grandparents did. Everyone will always have an opinion on how things were done in their day.

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  • There is a lot of political correctness in discipline these days

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