This is really not an article of interest or any real point of view – IT’S A VENT! I think I really need to hear from other Mums that my kids are normal and that fighting is part of them growing up.
Because at the moment, I’m slipping into despair over the behaviour of my children and my response to it. It seems that between the 3 of them, there is always someone crying, whinging, pinching, screaming or skulking off into some corner to figure out what they can do next to drive me even crazier than I already am.
Rationally I know that they are all probably just tired and completely over-egged (chocolate egged that is). And rationally I know that my response should probably be to pull them to me, hug them tight and understand their issue and help them work through it. Rationally I know that hubby and I need to overemphasize in our ‘positive-modelling’ that fighting is not a solution but with all this fighting it’s hard not to be short and cranky!
But what if I’m tired too? What if I can’t give them the 100% attention they need/deserve because I have lots of competing priorities?
I just want to know I’m doing the right thing or what I should change and that it’s OK – they’ll turn out just fine.
I also think just quietly I’ve been unnerved by my latest read – Nineteen Minutes by Jodi Picoult. A thought-provoking read, very well constructed and written in compelling prose. But it’s about a kid who had a tumultuous (he was teased mercilessly at school which was not dealt with properly at home) childhood. As a consequence, he one-day snaps then rocks into his school and shoots it to bits.
Of course, my children are not being teased, they aren’t teenagers and we don’t have guns in the house. All the same I’m being a typical mother I guess – overanalysing, worrying about what’s happening and what I should be doing to try and control it. Truth is – there probably is nothing I can do, nothing I should change and the solution is to probably just get everyone into bed early for a week!
So, I went off to find a pic for this article, googled ‘kids fighting’ and ended up finding a great article with some really practical ideas on how to cope. It takes 2 minutes but well worth the read. Read it here. Phew, maybe there is light at the end of the tunnel …