A woman has posted on a parenting forum about her pregnant friend who naps while leaving her toddler alone.

We all know how exhausting pregnancy can be. A little nap is certainly required to help you stay sane. But this woman is definitely NOT happy that her friend dares to nap while her toddler is running around unsupervised.

“Bit worried about a friend who is pregnant with her third,” she wrote. “She has a seven-year-old and a three-year-old. She’s been going to bed in the day and setting an alarm to wake her up in time for the school run. However, her three-year-old is being left to her own devices during this time. Should I talk to her or AIBU [Am I being unreasonable] in thinking this is potentially unsafe?”


Many mums were disappointed that she didn’t just offer her friend support instead of sharing on a forum.

“Why don’t you offer to help her out, op? Tell her you’re aware of the situation and if she needs a hand then your willing to help seeing as your concerned about her dc!”

“Either offer to help her care for the child occasionally or say nothing,” wrote another.

“If you aren’t going to offer to help so she can rest then what is the point of criticising her?”

“I nap on the sofa whilst my one year old runs around in the gated room with me. I’m exhausted and need the sleep,” wrote one. “Can’t afford childcare and no supportive friends (or unsupportive ones that will make threads on Mumsnet) to offer to help out and watch him for me so I can get some sleep.”

Another said that it all depends on the circumstances. “If she’s taking herself off to bed and leaving the toddler playing unattended in another room, that would be dangerous. But if she’s dozing on the sofa next to the toddler who is watching their favourite TV programme, I would have thought that’s fairly safe.”

I can’t help but think “mum senses” never really switch off, even when we are napping.

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  • I’m sure the Mum will wake up and check her little one if there is unusual noises or crying. The Mum can just as easily doze off while they are both watching TV.


  • That woman would have better offered her help to her friend. Is she goes to sleep it’s because she really needs it.


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