From the moment your first child is born, you’re destined to be a 24/7 mum, with your kid’s wellbeing on the top of your priority list, all the time.

This decision was ours to make, and we took it proudly – and not a single experience can ever compare to the one of loving and nurturing our little ones into becoming adults.

While giving birth may have transformed us into mums, this role doesn’t come with any superpowers attached. We still have the same set of traits, needs and wants but the number of mouths we have to feed has increased. Those fragile little beings were given to us fully dependent, and it’s up to us to fulfill their needs until they develop their independence.

And this can be, and I’ll put it mildly – exhausting.

Even though the burnout syndrome has finally been recognized as an official medical condition, there are no sick days you can take when you’re dealing with single mum burnout and trying to be at least two people at the same time.

And if you don’t do something to beat it, it will take the better out of you.

There is a saying that one should learn from other people’s mistakes. Here is what I’ve learned about it from mine.

Learn to Reconnect

When you’re a single mum, it’s easy to forget you have your own needs to fulfill too. Even your most basic, physiological needs, such as eating and sleeping, lose their priority, while your needs for social belonging, for example, start to feel like a luxury you can’t afford.  You just learn how to suppress them, until you’re no longer aware they’ve existed, and you can easily do something else instead. A pile of laundry, for example.

This way you’ll be on the way to single mum burnout in no time, and to avoid it, you need to learn how to reconnect to the very same parts of yourself that you’ve put down to sleep. To be able to do this, you need to schedule some me-time too and spend it looking after your own needs.

But, don’t fall into the trap of postponing it in favor of your regular daily chores – mark it in your calendar and book an appointment just like you do when it comes to meeting other people.

But how?

Plan for Relaxation

When you’re a single parent, time ranks high on your shortages list – sometimes you feel as if two days wouldn’t be enough to cover all that you usually handle within a single afternoon.

Me- time? Relaxation? Those two minutes of time alone right before you fall asleep, completely drained?
It’s not enough to even sketch out your daily schedule for tomorrow.

Still, you can’t afford to put off meeting your own needs until your kids leave for college, or go to a summer school – either you’ll meet them at your own pace, at your own time, or you’re going to let burnout creep up on you when you list expect and leave you devastated, trudging your way through your own life.

Make it your priority to schedule some chunks of me-time every day, and spend it alone, in activities that relax you and bring you closer to yourself. It may be a twenty-minute morning run or a relaxing evening bath, just as long as you spend it with your thoughts only.

If you can afford to hire a babysitter for a few extra hours each week or find a willing relative or friend to look after your kids for a day, schedule that ahead too, and spend that time focusing on nothing but your own needs.

Organize Your Time

When your days are loaded with errands, it’s high time you found out how actually you’re spending each minute of your day. That’s when good time management skills can come to your rescue.

Add another task to your never-ending list and monitor your activities and how much time you spend on each one of them for a week or two. It will be worth the effort, I promise, as you will be able to spot all the traps you tend to fall into regularly.

Mine was the trap of saying yes where I should have been saying no. Even now I see myself carelessly slipping into it from time to time, but I’ve learned to set priorities and stick to them.

Learning how to prioritize your tasks, or split the activities you detest into chunks which you find easier to swallow, can save a lot of your energy but some of your precious time too.

Take Breaks

Being a full-time single mum means having a lot of really great moments with your kids that you enjoy. But, it doesn’t end there, and you know it far too well.

If you want to save your energy for the activities that matter and be there for your kids not only with your body but with your mind too, learn to incorporate short breaks during your everyday activities. Even if it means you’ll skip doing laundry for the day. Let it wait – your kids will appreciate having a fresh and fully-present mum and you will be more agile and happy too.

Recognize What Your Body is Telling You

To avoid burnout, you need to listen to the signals your body is trying to send, all carrying the same message – you need some rest. It can be a headache you’ve been dealing with for a couple of days or your aching neck, and you’ve probably found a dozen reasons for why it hurts, starting from your sleeping position to possible dehydration.

To be able to continue with your duties, you took a pill and made a promise that you’re going to carry a water bottle wherever you go.

But what if it’s all your stress and anxiety and burnout lurking in and piling up? Learn more about the burnout symptoms, such as insomnia, increased illness, and chronic fatigue, so you can spot them on time, and try to prevent the negative outcomes.

Don’t Self-Medicate

It’s important to not try to self-cure your burnout with some medicine. Taking sleeping pills or any other substance in order to sedate yourself and get enough restful sleep can alter your natural sleep process, so it can, in fact, have negative effects on your sleep quality.  If you have trouble catching enough ZZZs, opt for natural remedies instead, such as a cup of chamomile or valerian tea before your bedtime.

Ask for Support

If you find that it’s hard for you to cope with your everyday life tasks and that you struggle with your resources to carry them out on your own, don’t delay asking for support. A burden is less heavy when you have someone to split it with, and your friends and family may be your powerful allies when you’re going through a rough patch.

Life can be overwhelming for single mums at times, but it is also full of unforgettable moments filled with love and joy. Focus on what’s truly important – your kids and you, and use these tips to prevent and fight single mum burnout.

How do you fight mum burnout? Tell us in the comments below.

  • I’m not a single mum, and honestly don’t believe I can manage it, or how single parents do. But one thing I have learned is that sometimes you can tell your kids to wait! For example, if I’m on the toilet they give me privacy and can only talk to me if there’s an emergency. Even a little thing like 1 min to pee in peace, has made a difference. There’s no harm in telling your kids they can wait for you to finish the dishes (or get them to help) before you sharpen their pencil. I learned all of this after giving my kids my all, even when there was nothing left for myself. I burned out and had a breakdown. It’s been 3 years and my kids are doing just fine. They don’t always respect the “it won’t kill you to wait” initiative, but most days they do.


  • Have a husband and still feel like this so single mum’s really are amazing (raised by one too)


  • I was a single mum for 6 years,
    You need to learn to accept or ask for help if you need it.
    So many family members or friends offer to help, take them up on it. No one offers if they really don’t want to do it


  • Some useful ideas, but not always easy to implement.


  • Some great tips in here for those super mums who are single mums


  • Being a single mum can be super tough. Especially when you have 100% care and no regular breaks or ‘me time’
    It’s all well and good saying schedule me time every day but it’s not always that easy. Some great tips and advice though.


  • Great tips for any mum Not just single ones


  • People who haven’t cared for or had much contact with a baby for quite awhile may be reluctant to handle much time initially. Even if you are only offered and hour or two initially accept it. The person is learning to start the process again and will hopefully care for your baby for longer later. Don’t be like one Mum I know and say “I can’t do anything in that short time”. It makes the person who offers feel as though you are ungrateful and some won’t offer again.


  • Rountine helps, start early and once kids in bed stop and take 5 minutes to breath


  • This was a great to read as a mum of a 5 yr old and 6 months pregnant with my second always finding my self tired and no energy throughout the day


  • Some great tips there for any mums out there. The main thing is to try to find any time you can for yourself. Remember wanting to have time to play my keyboard, soon learnt if I played some children songs, my lot would soon leave me alone to maybe play an adult song.


  • I know a few women who wish they’d been a single mum because their partners are more like another child they have to take care of :)


  • Take care of yourself mummas – single parenting is the toughest gig there is!


  • Definitely don’t self medicate – please see a medical professional if this is the case.


  • Great tips – thanks for sharing. My other tip is – don’t fret about the house – whatever needs to be done will be waiting for you when you get home and have more time to do it properly.


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