Last year we shared the story of the Canadian baby born without a documented gender. Now meet the couple planning on raising a gender fluid child.

In a big story a few months ago, the Canadian government claimed an 8-month-old could be the first baby in the world without a government registered gender.

Baby, Searyl Atli, has been registered for health care with a British Columbia health card marked with a ‘U’ in the space that is usually reserved for gender.

Searyl’s parent, Kori Doty, identifies as a non-binary transgender parent, meaning she identifies as neither male nor female, and wants Searyl’s gender kept off any records.

They want their child to be able to choose its own gender when it is old enough, and launched a judicial review against the policy.

More recently, a pregnant transgender man has revealed he will also let his child ‘choose his or her own gender’.

Alex Alvarez, 25, from Los Angeles, California, who was raised as a woman, is eight months pregnant with his first child, who was conceived via an unknown sperm donor. Read more of their story on Daily Mail.

He will bring up the baby with his girlfriend Carla Gonzalez, 33, and their mutual friend, Cole James, 36, a gender queer, androgynous female.

The trio, who will live together, will allow their child to decide whether he or she would like to be raised as a boy or a girl and until then raise him or her as gender fluid.

Alex said: ‘We want him or her to choose his or her own gender. I’ve got a nephew who is proud he is a man. He has chosen that, and that is great.

‘We will raise our child gender fluid, until they can choose what gender they wish to be.’

Adding, ‘I’m hoping that we raise this baby with unconditional love and give them the chance to choose who they wish to be in this life.’

Do you think a child should choose what gender they really want to be?

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  • I really dont know how you would go about doing this. I find this very confusing.


  • I think this can cause great confusion and conflict in the personal development of a child.


  • This would be the most confronting thing a child would ever have to deal with. Think the PC have gone over the top on this one.


  • Well this is one sure way to stuff up a child.


  • I have nothing against gays, but this is something else entirely and is making for an unnecessarily confusing life for the child. Nature chooses whether you are one way or another and I think it would be extremely rare that a child would look like a girl on the outside when they were really meant to be a boy and vice versa (if this is even possible- they can’t really prove it and it may also be a mental health issue). Why do this to a kid?


  • Why put that pressure on your child? I really don’t understand and I’d be curious to see the mental health of this child in later years.


  • Absolutely Ridiculous. There is going to be more and more of this shit going on in the world now that laws have changed in most countries. All part of the Transgender Agenda.


  • Wow, these kids will be very confused. I think raise them for what they are and only then if they identify themselves as trans then that is the option they can choose.


  • what an incredible load of bulldust! These people don’t deserve to have children. If it is born with a penis it is male, a vagina and it’s female. I am so sick of the gender fluidity nonsense.


  • A bit over the top if you ask me.


  • i think this is totally confusing for the chd


  • There could be some very confusing issues when the child is old enough to go to the toilet alone.


  • Well either way, i’m sure the child will get to a point in their own life where they realise who they truly are and to actively promote gender fluidity (or not), won’t change the fact. Just let kids be kids and enjoy their childhoods without all this other confusing identity stuff! Focus on raising an amazing, humble, kind, caring and compassionate human being because that is more important at the end of the day


  • Look, I can see their goal, and it’s not all bad. But I really think this will be much more challenging than they think. Better to try to break down gender stereotypes.


  • I don’t believe in this type of parenting at all. Certainly some children are born and feel they are the wrong gender and I fully support these kids. If they feel they are a different gender then I fully support allowing them to grow up and raising them as the gender they choose. But raising a child deliberately as ‘gender fluid’ – I think this is wrong and would cause the child so many issues growing up.


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