It’s an age-old debate – is it ever ok to bring your other kids to a party that their sibling has been invited to?
It’s left one mum wondering if she’s ruined her son’s birthday party, by refused to allow siblings to attend. The 32-year-old single mum says she raises her son on her own, without any support. And this has meant there’s never been much money for fancy birthday parties.
“For his tenth birthday he wanted a big event party like his more wealthy friends, he’s never had one before as we couldn’t afford it,” she explained on reddit. “Since tenth is a special birthday I agreed and saved up enough money for him and ten of his friends to go to a small carnival/theme park near our house. He was so excited and gave out invitations the next day.”
Everything was going swimmingly, until one of the mums said she wanted to bring her other three children to the party as well.
“At first I didn’t like the idea of other children my son didn’t invite coming to his party but after the mum explained she felt uncomfortable leaving her child alone with me since we didn’t know each other well I tried to be understanding. I told her that since money is tight I couldn’t afford to pay for her other children to come and she would have to cover the entry and food costs.
“The mum got very angry at me and accused me of being toxic for not letting her bring her kids and for making her pay. I tried to explain myself but she kept insisting that if I was going to pay for the party I should be able to pay for all the guests. When I pointed out her other children weren’t technically guests she got even more angry and said her son, the one invited, wouldn’t be coming to the party at all.
“I feel like I might have ruined my sons birthday by making one of his friends not be able to come. Am I in the wrong here?”
‘I take my five children to the party, even if only one was invited’
Mum of five Jeena Wilder recently went viral on TikTok when she revealed that even if only one of her children is invited to a party, she takes all of the siblings as well.
“You invite one child, you get all of us,” she wrote. “Don’t worry, we bring awesome gifts,” she added. She further explained: “My husband works a lot and most days it’s just me and the kids! I always RSVP or ask the parents first.”
@heytherewildersAre you team just the invited child goes or team the whole family?! My husband works a lot and most days it’s just me and the kids! I always RSVP or ask the parents first. ##largefamily ##family ##parentsoftiktok ##interracialcouple ##birthdayparty♬ Hillbilly type beet – Dadood
After the video went viral, Jenna made a follow-up explaining why she never just lets one child attend birthday parties. “Many parents are way to comfortable about dropping their kids off at kids’ birthday parties and sleepovers without even knowing their parents or even introducing themselves to the parents.
“In our household, that’s a no-go. We often hear stories about children going to kid parties or sleepovers and at that party there’s a child who is being bullied harassed or even racially targeted. And in our household, it’s not going to be like that.”
Reply to @nina_25_2004 whether or not you agree. Its not up for debate. In our household , if you invite one you’re inviting us all. We always ask the parents first and we don’t just show up. But if you keep insisting on just the one child… red flag ???? ???? and we most likely aren’t coming.
♬ original sound – jeenawilder
What are your thoughts – do you take your children’s siblings to parties they are invited to? Let us know in the comments.We may get commissions for purchases made using links in this post. Learn more.