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Wow! We’ve heard stories about overbearing grandparents but this one certainly takes the cake! These underhand grandparents went against the parent’s wishes and took their baby granddaughter to have her ears pierced.

A couple has reached out to Reddit members, asking whether their reaction was unreasonable after they discovered the new holes in their child’s ears.

“Me (22) and my fiancée (23) had our baby girl Thalia and she just turned 9 months old,” shared No_Wayout_ on Reddit.

“We basically decided it was gonna be up to Thalia when she’s older if she wants to get her ears pierced. I was never into the idea of it being done as a baby when they can’t consent, like my fiancée’s parents pierced her ears when she was a baby, and she always hated wearing earrings. Still doesn’t wear any.

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We Said NO!

“My parents didn’t shut up about it for a while saying ‘she’d look so cute.’ But we told them already no and that’s our answer,” the dad explained.

“When they babysat for us once, they got one of my mom’s friends to do it, and we were f*cking pissed they went behind our backs. We stopped talking to them after that for disrespecting our decision.”

Don’t you worry dad, we would have been furious too!

Making A Big Fuss!

The father continues:

“Everyone was saying we were making a big deal and we can’t cut them out of their granddaughter’s life over something like that. So we decided they’re allowed to see Thalia only when one of us is around, and they won’t be left alone with her.

“That’s where everyone is still saying we’re being massive a-holes because we’re still punishing them over something that’s not a big deal and we’re treating them like children. Even my fiancées’ parents think that only letting them have supervised visits is too much and they should be allowed to babysit or have Thalia at their place alone like before.”

 

Did I Over-React?

The dad reached out to Reddit users asking whether their reaction was too harsh. Most of the responses were in support of the angry parents.

“Your parents behaved like children therefore they deserve to be treated as such. They broke your trust, went against your express wishes, and pretty much said, ‘We know better than you and what you think is irrelevant.’ I can’t get my head around why anyone would think you aren’t justified in your actions. (I hope you’ve taken the earrings out and have let the holes close over before they become permanent),” said one commenter.

“I wouldn’t be leaving my child with them ever again. My mum cut my daughter’s fringe and I lost it; this is another level altogether! What’s going to be next thing they decide they know better on? They’re lucky they’re even allowed to see her,” said another.

It’s Assault!

A few Reddit users suggested that what did was actually assault.

“This is actually assault. If you had reported this to the police it would have been assault on a minor and they would have been in serious trouble!”

We certainly don’t think Thalia’s parents are overreacting. We would be furious if our child’s grandparents had been so devious.

What do you think? Do you think the parent’s actions are justified? Has any of your family members don’t something similar to you before? Tell us in the comments below.

  • 100% on the dads side. You don’t have the right to do anything that alters the child’s appearance without the parents knowledge and consent! It’s just wrong!
    I personally don’t agree with babies getting their ears pierced at all as it’s purely for cosmetic reasons. You would get your babies nose pierced so why is this ok?
    I also believe whoever pierced the child’s ears should be held responsible, I’m not sure where this story is from but where I’m from they’re not allowed to pierce children’s ears (or anything else) without the parents consent. My sister took my son for a piercing (with my knowledge and consent) and I had to go to show ID and sign a form that he was allowed to get it.

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  • Omg if my husbands parents did that I would be furious, I would never trust them again

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  • I’m 100% with the parents on this one! They deliberately went behind your back and did something you specifically told them not to. Yes at that age, her ears can close over, but why put her through that pain for nothing.
    I wouldn’t be forgiving them either and wouldn’t allow them to see the child.

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  • You are 100% correct, if they knew how you felt it is disrespectful to you and your partner. I am the grandmother of 8 and would never go against what the parents say, other than the odd extra lolly here and there.

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  • They absolutely had no right to do this to your child. I would have been furious.

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  • I don’t think you’re wrong in your decision to ban them from having them babysit. When things have calmed down you could tell them you will give them one more chance to babysit and if they do anything to her then they will no longer be able to see her without one of you there. I hope you have taken out the earrings and let the holes close up naturally.

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  • I would be very upset if my inlaws did something with or to my kids that I didn’t like or didn’t want, especially if they knew how I felt

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  • Clearly they were very wrong and you need to set boundaries early. I’m suffering 20 years on from letting my family do what they wanted. You’re the parents and you get to make decisions for your child, noone else.

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  • Anyone caring for your kids needs to respect your wishes.
    This is far more than just giving a kid ice cream or chocolate without permission, this was altering the kids body.
    I have piercings and like I did, this decision needs to be made when the kid is older.

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  • 100% justified

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  • Definitely not overreacting! I had a dream that a family member pierced my daughters ears and I was furious when I woke up so if it happened for real I would be ropeable! Not their child, not their choice. Also shouldn’t be anybody’s choice but the child’s to pierce their ears.

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  • Total breach of trust. Also rude, because you as the parents have been very clear that your wish is for no ear piercing, so what they did was knowingly contravene this wish. It comes across as arrogant ‘we know better than you and our wishes matter more’. I would be angry in your shoes, and have trouble trusting them again. Allowing visits provided one of you is there, is a very reasonable compromise. Trust is earnt from this point forward.
    Also , as someone else has said already, I’d be taking the studs out and letting the ears heal asap.


    • Yes I would do so too and immediately right before there eyes.

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  • That is absolutely disgraceful. It is not the grandparents decision to make whatsoever.

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  • I would’ve been furious! I am completely with the parents here- ear piecing is for older kids- my daughter needs to be at least 10 and able to look after the piercing and the jewellery. I think I’d have a hard time getting over this and probably wouldn’t trust them again.

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  • My parents got my daughter’s ears pierced when she was two when they came from overseas for a visit and took her out with them for a shopping trip. It shouldn’t have happened, but it did.

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