Temper Tantrums are kind of like a right of passage for many mothers. WE ALL have to deal with them and boy can they be frustrating. Here are five ways to deal with your child’s temper tantrums!

1. Let your child work it all out

Children are humans like the rest of us. They feel emotions much like we do, but don’t yet have the cognitive ability to deal with it fully. So if your child is hulking out at home, just let them work out that emotional energy. They might just need space to have a cry, yell or just throw a ball at the fence in frustration. Sometimes, situation dependant of course, the best thing to do as parents is let your child be, and work out the emotional tension that has been building up inside them.

2. Be firm in your convictions

If your child is trying to blackmail you with a temper tantrum in public for you to buy something, be firm in your initial decision. Try not to give in the what your child is demanding. If every time your child has a tantrum they get what they want, then you will re-enforce in their mind that a temper tantrum is a guaranteed way to get what they want, and you can expect a lot more where that came from!

3. Engage their mind

This might not be possible during massive tantrums, but a minor tantrum can be quelled by simply giving their brains something to do. Take them outside and throw a ball around, go and dig in the sandpit or even take them for a walk to the park. During these situations, they may have lots of adrenaline and stimulating chemicals rushing through their body, so it’s usually best to divert their attention through an activity where they are moving and using their body.

4. Give you child a hug

Sometimes, all your child really needs is some affection. They might be feeling neglected because you have been busy all week, and the only way they believe they can get your attention is through a tantrum. So, try giving your child a hug, and let them just have a cry, we all need to every now and again.

5. Change the setting

Sometimes a child could be throwing a tantrum because they feel unsafe or anxious about a particular place. If this is the case, taking your child out of this area may calm them down and stop their tantrum.

So there you have it, a few tips on dealing with tantrums, let us know how you’ve dealt with tantrums below!
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  • I dont know why but my kids didnt go through the tantrum stage.


  • I found my daughter just needed some space and she snapped out of it.


  • I ignore tanties as much as I can, told the bigger kids to leave him be when we have a tanty in progress so they don’t get hurt by him. every now and then I will say “are you ready for a hug yet?” and eventually he will come for a cuddle and has learnt that it isn’t going to get him what he wants


  • My daughter had some doozies when she was a toddler, she had her mind set and that was it. Hasn’t really changed much. My boy was much more chilled, but still had a temper


  • i just pick her up and refuse to talk to her till we get home and usually she is in a much better mood already for a talk.


  • My second son was an epic tantrum thrower. There were plenty of times we both left woolworths in tears.


  • dealing with it


  • even kids have bad tempures


  • Sometimes i used to throw a ‘tanty’ with my kids just to get them over it and laughing again and talking about why they were upset, used to work well with us.


  • This advice is so appreciated. I have been struggling with my son’s tantrums and I will definitely follow the suggestions here. Thanks heaps.


  • some chlds have bad tempaur


  • Learning to read our children is a massive task but its also the best thing we can do for them. I have done many parenting groups and focusing on The Circle of Security and adapting my parenting to my child’s needs on the day. I get it wrong so often but My oldest 4 next month, now tells me: Put your phone down, I need a hug or just Im sad or scared. Shes so good at telling me her feelings I find I no longer need to spend all day guessing what the heck the problem is. Don’t read this as a Brag more as a lesson, many people are so quick to Judge anything positive. I’m still learning to read my 19 month old and shes tough and I just struggle to do both at the same time lol


  • great article….these tips are very helpful thankyou!


  • temper of child


  • Some great tips. Does anyone have any for headbutting the floor type tantrums?? I swear my daughter will knock herself out cold one of these days! :(


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