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How do we protect our children from the ever-present stream of tragedy in the media – should we switch off the news or should we expose them to the realities of life?

It seems that as we watch the evening news or log onto a news site, we’re overloaded with stories of tragedy, crime, grief – it jams our news streams and our consciousness. Yet are we indirectly exposing our children to the worst our society has to offer and should we be protecting our children against this?

The last few weeks seem to be particularly poignant. Many of us have images ingrained in our minds – the horrific video of George Floyd,  the photo of innocent presumed-dead Madeleine Mccann, fatal car accidents and teen stabbings.

It’s as if we need to steel ourselves for what’s coming next every time we turn on the news.

Yet often we’re not alone when we’re hearing the news. Whether we’re driving in the car with the radio on, watching the evening news, or leaving a news-site open on the computer, our children are indirectly being exposed to these harsh realities of the life they live in.

And yes, it can be as simple as ‘switching off’, and 9 times out of 10, we do this. But what about the times we don’t – what actually happens when our children are exposed to this?

Does any good come from exposing our children to bad news in a controlled way, where we can teach them about life, and make them more aware of the bad as well as the good? Is there ever a time when it’s the right thing to do?

“As parents, we are responsible for the emotional and psychological well-being of our kids,” says Sydney-based Psychotherapist and Couples Counsellor Annie Gurton. “That means protecting them from the worst but also preparing them for the realities of life.  So, a fine balance has to be struck.”

“The trick is to ensure that their exposure to traumatic world events is age-appropriate, and suitable for their individual level of development and sensitivity,” suggests Ms Gurton. “Children’s ability to understand disturbing news is different from that of adults. Their comprehension depends on their age and emotional maturity. A child who is hyper caring and compassionate is likely to be more disturbed by a tragic event than one who is more resilient and pragmatic.”

“With easy access to the Internet, and repeated showings of violent and horrific events, they can be upset without their parents realising, so parents have to be vigilant and look for non-verbal signs that they have been affected.”

According to Ms Gurton, the following age group impacts can be identified:

  • For children under 7, they may believe what they see on television is happening live while they are watching it.  And when they see repeated replays, they think that the traumatic incident is happening over and over again.  They are likely to find images of people suffering, crying or being attacked extremely upsetting.
  • From ages 7-12, children are more likely to realise the news is only made up of reports of events that have already happened. They will also find disturbing images and stories upsetting, and because they are increasingly mature they are able to imagine such a thing happening to them and your family.  So they may become anxious for your safety.
  • For the over 13’s, these things become more exaggerated: they are scared and horrified by dreadful events, and can become deeply worried and anxious for their family and their own safety.  They can look to the future, and think that even if such a thing has not happened now, it may do next week or next year.  But teenagers can be reasoned with and can understand statistics, so a rational explanation with a supportable statistic can do a lot to reassure them.

“Parents need to be the guardians of their children’s exposure to news, and to TV programs and films which show death, destruction and pain,” says Ms Gurton. “As soon as they show any indication of being worried or confused, the parent should intervene, switch off and explain. Your child may be confused and afraid and may have questions that should be answered.  Don’t ignore their worries; instead spend extra time reassuring them and explain the facts in a way that they can understand.”

Avoid News Before Bed

“Just before bedtime is a key time for images and stories to be negatively absorbed and integrated into dreams and imagination.  Try not to let them see news or programs alone, and avoid leaving newspapers with disturbing images around the house.  Try and watch the news with them, and explain what they are seeing, putting it into perspective and keeping proportion.  You could explain that although they are seeing the event repeatedly, it actually only happened once, and it is on the news because it is so unusual. The news is often about bad things but most people are good.”

Over-Protect Rather Than Over-Expose

“Preparing children for a world where there are bad people and tragic events is difficult.  But if in doubt, err on the side of over-protecting rather than over-exposing,” suggests Ms Gurton. “Of course we can’t protect them entirely, and it is necessary for them to realise that the world can be a harsh, cruel place.”

“But your number one job as a parent is to make them feel safe, and let them know that, provided they do all the right things, they are unlikely to be victims themselves, and Australia is, really, a comparatively very safe place.”

Trust the experts and trust your instincts as a parent, if it doesn’t feel right to you, it’s certainly not appropriate for your children. So if in doubt switch off, let’s protect our children’s innocence and childhood as long as possible.

Do you let your kids watch the news? SHARE your thoughts with us in the comments below.

  • News is age appropriate and so too are the games your children play. Lately it seems that the news is taken up with stabbings, shootings and other deaths and it then makes the games they play more real – except that in the news the person dies – doesn’t get up again like in their games and this should also be pointed out to them.

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  • My 3 year old is obsessed with Peppa Pig only. But my 9 year old has found the news quite distressing and I have stopped her watching it and talk to her about the days events instead

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  • Only if they want to watch and with supervision so you can explain.

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  • When the news is brought in a age appropriate way, I think it’s good and important for their general development.

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  • I believe that they will always hear things so it is important to be able to have open, age appropriate discussions.

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  • My boys were always more interested in sports so they never watched the news. Plus it was normally on when we were having a meal so it was turned off.

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  • We used to block my son from seeing the news or have the TV turned off. Now, he’s 19, and earlier it became a discussion and teaching moments about what was true, what was sensational, how headlines were distorted, etc. I do believe you can become desensitized to all of the drama and bad news that is constantly in your face, so it’s about processing it with him.

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  • I don’t really watch it myself but don’t see the harm. In primary school my school used to put on Behind the News on ABC for us to watch

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  • Most of the time my kids don’t pay to much attention to the news but we try and limit what they see and hear

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  • They sometimes see the news but I try to limit the amount of negative things that they see, there are so many horrible things going on i would rather they didn’t see it all the time.

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  • We communicate and discuss the news and of course no saturation of the news. It is important to be honest but also sensitive when viewing and discussing the news.

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  • my kids were never interested in the TV news. You could find them anywhere but when the news was on

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  • I let my kids to watch news.But they are not much interested in it.I feel sometimes they need to understand the reality.

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  • This gave me really good food for thought because I watch the news alot and usually prefer it to the other shows on tv but I think I’ll need to rethink which news program we watch as a family.

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  • My kids watch the news now and then with our supervision.

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