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The term dream feed can be confusing to anyone who is not a parent.  And even for those who’ve heard it before, sometimes there’s often still some confusion over who is doing the dreaming and who is doing the feeding. This article explores the fact, and the fiction of dream feeding.

Breastfeeding mothers commonly dream they are feeding their baby with dreams so vivid and real that it can be very hard to recall if they really did breastfed or were just dreaming they did. But this is not what dream feeding refers to.

What is dream feeding?

Dream feeding is when a baby feeds during their sleep. Dream feeds can be done equally well with babies who are breast or bottle fed.  The process of dream feeding generally means that a baby who is already asleep is picked up gently from their cot, placed in their parent’s arms and fed.  The baby is not woken, their nappy is not changed and they are not stimulated to the point of being awake. They suck while they are still asleep, and after they have finished sucking they are placed gently back in their cot to continue with their sleep.

The whole process of dream feeding is that the baby does what comes naturally to them e.g. sucking whilst they are asleep.  During dream feeds, babies tend to feed in a calm and steady way and when they are full, pull away from the nipple or teat.

Dream feeding is one way for parents to try to influence their baby’s feeding and sleep cycles – by manipulating the timing of their baby’s feeds, rather than waiting until the baby demands to be fed. Essentially, the baby is already full and has had their feed at the time in the late evening when they would normally wake for it. The goal is that they then continue sleeping through the time when they would normally wake and because of this, parents get to sleep for longer overnight.

How can a baby suck when they are asleep?

Some babies suck better when they are sleeping than other babies. Some sleep so deeply that they really can’t rouse themselves to suck effectively and just go straight back into a deep slumber. But others actually feed better during dream feeds than when they are awake.

This is often the case with babies from around four months onwards who have discovered there’s a whole world to look at and can be quite distractible when they feed during the day.

Why would I want my baby to dream feed?

Newborn babies do not have the brain maturity to be able to separate night from day. Their metabolism and small stomach size mean that they need to be fed every few hours around the clock.  Of course this is exhausting for new parents, especially after the initial novelty of new parenthood has worn off and their own reserves of energy start to wind down.

Babies also have much shorter sleep cycles than adults do so they wake more often and do not follow predictable patterns of long hours sleeping. But as they mature and there is more regularity and routine to their feeding and sleeping behaviours, they start to sleep for longer at night and not need to feed so frequently.

By around three months old, many babies have more of a predictable awake/asleep/play patterns happening.  Ideally, a long and continuous sleep of six hours starts to occur in babies who are getting sufficient milk during the day/evening to grow and thrive.  Sometimes this can happen as early as six weeks. And it is this longer sleep period which allows parents to make up for the hours of their own lost sleep which occurred   in the first few weeks of their baby’s life.

Sometimes babies don’t feed as well through the day as they should. This can be due to a lot of reasons like sickness,  distractibility or sleeping for long periods; in which case it’s valuable to offer a dream feed to make up for missed feeds during the day/evening.

But be aware that the more milk a baby has during the night, the less they may demand through the day. So parents need to be in control of dream feeds, not their baby.

What is a circadian rhythm?

Essentially, a circadian rhythm refers to the biological processes in the brain which drive our cycles of energy and wakefulness. As humans, we tend to be awake during the day when the sun is up and sleep at night after the sun has gone down. There is a predictable, rhythmic cycle to how and when we expend our energy and then recharge ourselves through sleep. But newborn babies are not born with an inherent understanding of this. And it’s not until the age of six weeks to three months or even older that babies start to develop a circadian or day/night rhythm.

Many parents ask what they can do to support this development in their baby. To be honest, there’s very little that can be done. How and when a baby’s brain develops is not under the direct control of parents. But it does help to provide a warm, nurturing and stable environment and to follow a flexible daily routine. Predictable patterns of care which are reasonably similar each day and night do help to support the development of a baby’s circadian rhythm. It also depends on the individual baby and their temperament and personality.  Some babies just need more reassurance and “topping up” emotionally through the night until they are older.  Research has also shown that there is a genetic influence when it comes to circadian rhythm development.

How old should my baby be to do a dream feed?

There’s no perfect age to introduce a dream feed. There are too many variables for why a dream feed may be necessary. But you may want to consider doing one if:

  • Your baby has been asleep for a few hours and you are keen to go to bed yourself. For example, if your baby last fed at around 6pm and it’s now 10pm and they are still asleep, then a dream feed may be useful.
  • If your baby is past the newborn period and has started to have a longer, continuous sleep at night. This can happen from six weeks onwards.
  • Your baby has not fed as much as they usually do during the day and you think that they need a feed to make up for this.
  • If your baby has been unwell and you think they need an extra feed to maintain their hydration.
  • If you are breastfeeding and your breasts are very full and uncomfortable.
  • If you have been at work and come home and just need to re connect with your baby.
  • If your breast milk supply is low and you need the extra stimulation of doing more breastfeeds.
  • If your baby is having a longer sleep cycle in the early part of the night and you think that they are likely to wake just as you’ve fallen asleep yourself.
  • If you are trying to cut out middle of the night breastfeeds, but are happy to still offer a breastfeed at around 10-11 pm.
  • If your baby is used to feeding often overnight and you want to create more of a predictable pattern of offering a last feed before midnight and not breastfeed again before 5-6 am.
  • If you are worried about your baby and just want to assess how they are feeling and feeding.

More tips on dream feeding

  • Don’t expect your baby to be keen to suck if it’s only been a short while since their last feed. Even though you may be eager to drop the 2 am feed, if they are already full when you’re trying to do the dream feed, they won’t suck as effectively.
  • Fathers are very good at doing dream feeds for babies who are bottle feeding. Formula or expressed breast milk can be offered in a bottle and for mothers who are breastfeeding, expressing for a late night dream feed is a good way to gain some extra sleep.
  • If your baby is very sleepy and not sucking effectively, loosen the screw cap on the top of the bottle so the flow of milk is a little more rapid.
  • If your baby has a dirty nappy or a nappy which is particularly wet, you will need to change them. But be quick, organised and keep the stimulation very low key.
  • Use a night light when doing a dream feed and limit your interaction with your baby. The aim is to fill them up without them waking.
  • If you are dropping off to sleep yourself during the dream feed, ask your partner to support you.
  • A lovely article. I miss breastfeeding! Such a special moment! :-)

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  • yeah i have done this for my children but i didn’t realise that it was a term

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  • I dream fed both my boys, for me it meant I would get to sleep for about 6hrs instead of 3 or 4hrs. This was especially important when I had a toddler and a baby, because I couldn’t nap much during the day.

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  • Great in-depth article thank you :). My 2nd was a terrible sleeper & a projectile vomiter (oh joy), but if I I managed a few dream feeds (I never knew this term) a week, it was like a blessing as she never threw-up after one.

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  • I dream feed my little man. I love that I can get that one on one time with him with out having my other two little ones yelling and screaming. As much as I love them to.

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  • This is a fantastic article! I habe attemoted a dream feed twice and it didn’t work out … the first time my baby refused to suck and milk ended up all over her face….the second time I expressed and fed her my milk in a bottle which was better but she barely sucked….will try again…maybe lol

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  • havent herd of this thanks for sharing

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  • really interesting to have more information about this

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  • Have never heard of this before. Thanks for explaining so thoroughly

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  • My daughter used to fall asleep and keep right on feeding

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  • had never thought of feeding the kids when they were asleep

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  • I hadn’t heard about dream feeding before either. It makes a lot of sense!

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  • Never heard of this method of feeding! Don’t think it would’ve worked for my bub though because he couldn’t be picked up and moved and remain asleep! He will happily go straight back to sleep after you put him down again though!

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  • I’ve introduced a dream feed in the hope of longer sleep.

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  • Thank you. My son is nearly 2 and he still sucks his lip in his sleep.

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