A frazzled new mum, running on only minimal sleep without even enough time to shower, has been slammed by her husband’s family for not preparing a ‘proper’ dinner when they unexpectedly dropped in.
After giving birth just four weeks ago, the mum says she’s been exhausted, hasn’t even fixed her hair, is barely able to shower and can’t sleep.
“My husband’s family had been pressuring us to visit to meet the baby,” she explained on reddit. “I tried to hold them off as much as I could but yesterday, I was surprised to find them standing on the porch. Turns out hubby invited them for dinner. I was embarrassed and felt like I wasn’t ready for visitors (judgemental ones at that) ’cause the house was a M.E.S.S y’all.”
The new mum went off in private to feed the baby, while her husband sat with his family. Once she was finished she asked her husband if she should order some take away for dinner.
“He said no because his parents would find this rude and unwelcoming. He suggested that I go inside the kitchen and prepare something, anything long as it’s ‘homemade’. I said fine then went and made some Mac N Cheese. The reason I prepared this meal is because of how easy it is.
“Once I served the family, my husband’s mum looked at me and was appalled. I noticed something was wrong. She asked if I really found it ‘appropriate’ to serve her and the family Mac N Cheese. I asked why not and she went on a rant about how disrespectful this was and that I clearly have no experience in what is right and wrong when it comes to hosting. I said excuse me? Who said I signed up to host an expected visit from them and she took it as in I didn’t want them there.
“Her husband said they were just there to finally see the baby that I kept them from seeing for an entire month. That’s a whole month of his life they ‘missed’ out on. We had an argument and they decided to go home. My husband said that deciding to serve his family Mac N Cheese was more offensive than serving them nothing at all. I told him I was too exhausted to cook their ‘traditional feasts’ that I was forced to learn from his mum.
“He took offence and said that I was being mean and disrespectful towards not only his family but his (Asian) culture. I went inside the bedroom to stay with my son. My husband stayed on the phone with his family for an hour then kept giving me the cold shoulder and refused to eat what I cook in support of his family.
“I understand how some guests might find it offensive especially his family, but I was just trying to make a quick homemade meal like my husband wanted. What’s wrong with Mac N Cheese?”
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