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Mum shares important message about bullying, begging parents to take more responsibility.

Leigh Davey shared on Facebook how her young daughter had contemplated suicide after she had been bullied at Primary School, but all the school did was tell the family to teach their child “how to be resilient against bullies.”

Leigh shared, “In this age of social media, children ( because they are children) think it’s ok to send hateful messages (to me also) without consequences.

Leigh has received calls from these children calling her an old hag because they defended their daughter, approached parents and pleaded with them to talk with their children and ask them to stop.

The WA department of education don’t expel children from schools for bullying as they say. “Every child is entitled to an education.”

What about our child’s entitlement asks Leigh?

She’s been sent home numerous times after self harming at school. She’s not allowed a pencil sharpener as she takes the blade out and cuts herself.

The WA department of education also told me, “You should teach your child how to be resilient against bullies.” Yes, they said that.

“Our girl has had a video taken of her sitting at her desk at school, legs slightly open, with a lovely caption about the smell. It was posted to snapchat. I spent 90 mins with the police as they tried to determine if it was photographing and distribution of pornographic material.”

Yes, a 12 year old can be prosecuted if the content breaches certain criteria. Sadly our daughters didn’t, but she was subjected to weeks of ridicule.

Repercussions? The girl who posted the video lost her playtime. The person who took the video? Nothing, because no one would tell who it was.

Leigh shared how they spent over 5 hours in A&E with psychiatrists, doctors and nurses, because his daughter “had a plan to commit suicide.” He also applied for a VRO against a 12 year old to keep her ( the bully) away from his daughter.

All because parents don’t accept responsibility for their children and schools can only do so much.

Leigh pleads, “Please, in this awful age of social media (or anti social media as we call it) check your children’s messages. Their devices are a privilege, nothing more, nothing less, so please make sure they are being polite and respectful in their messages.”

Teach the children to ‘talk’ not use text or social media to air their differences.

Bullying affects the whole family, not just the bullied. It needs to stop and it needs to stop now!”

Leigh’s post went viral on social media with over 46,000 shares and 33,000+ comments.

UPDATE 16 October

The family shared an update recently on how they were feeling about the overwhelming support they have received since the post went viral.

“Leigh and I cannot begin to thank you for all the incredible messages of love and support for our little girl and her situation. From the bottom of our hearts thank you.

“Rest assured, we will read all your messages, it will just take time. The strength we are taking from your messages is unquantifiable and to say we are overwhelmed and humbled at the outpouring of support is an understatement!

“We’ve not only had an unbelievable amount of comments to this post, but also hundreds and hundreds of personal emails from all over the world. Your messages range from sending love to our daughter, wishing her well, encouraging her to stay strong and sharing your own personal stories of both triumph and tragedy.

“The reality is we simply can’t respond individually to all your wonderful messages……there are just too many. This is why we are posting this update….to let you all know that none of your messages are being overlooked and we are grateful beyond words.”

“Eva is doing much better.

“You have been amazing and continue to be.
Carl, Leigh and Eva xx”

We are all responsible for this. It is time to stand up and STOP the bullying!

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  • Our son was bullied and the school did next to nothing to assist our son or us. They didn’t have a Bullying Policy in place. We finally made the decision to remove our son from the school. He is happy now which was our main concern. The school (a small private school in a a country town) did not respond to our letters and being non-government we had nowhere to take our grievances. So pleased this family are moving on in a positive way.

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  • I really think there need to be stronger and earlier interventions with bullies.

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  • So pleased to hear Eva is doing better and I hope and pray it continues that way!

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  • Yep, I think parents need to be brought into the mix more. Particularly the parents of the bully

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  • I agree that parents need to be really involved when it comes to protecting their children from bullying. I found that schools take bureaucratic measures but no real help.

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  • Glad to hear that Eva is doing better! :-)

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  • Not enough is being done. I’m sick of hearing schools telling kids to say “stop it. I don’t like it” a bully knows they don’t like it, that’s why they do it!

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  • A horrible situation to be in,children need to learn bullying is not acceptable in any forms.

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  • there is very rarely any support for the bullied child, we were lucky that my kid’s school took action straight away unlike their primary school

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  • I faced a similar situation when my daughter was at school. A rumour was started that she was a lesbian, she had her lunchbox raided and food stolen daily, she had her school books thrown out of classroom windows. On a bus trip one day, another girl tried to set my daughters hair alight. Punishments? Severe talking tos. Didn’t stop it, the bullies would laugh it off and continue

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  • Unbelievable !!
    Bullying is so wrong and it’s our responsibility together with the school and the community to teach our kids it’s unacceptable.

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  • I was bullied and it makes me so angry that the bullies are still just getting away with it. I was really lucky that I went to school before social media. But kis who do these things and act this way really shouldn’t have a right to public education. If their parents think they are above punishment then let their parents foot the bill for a private school. Kids are so cruel. I hope they find her a great friend who is a bit older who has survived something similar who can show her how much better life gets after school.

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  • This makes me very cross. Poor littlw girl. It would be so incredibly frustrating for her parents coming up against all of these barriers when trying to ensure the wellbeing of their child.

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  • Life is so hard for our children these days. Sending lots of love to the family involved.

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  • how dare they just tell her to basically toughen up as if she is somehow to blame for the other students behaviour. that school needs to accept some responsibilty


    • Telling anyone that is being bullied to toughen up is just not dealing with the issue. How does one toughen up? How does a teenager toughen up? Why should the victim have to toughen up? The toughen up statement by schools only validates the bullying.

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