With the amount of “couple time” that most Australian parents get, it’s no wonder that Valentine’s Day is taking a back seat for many this year.
Tiredness, tight budgets and a lack of babysitters are also wrecking the romantic plans of many couples.
We recently asked our members about their Valentine’s plans.
Sadly, 30% of women say their partner forgets Valentine’s Day altogether. It’s no wonder then that 16% admit to buying their own Valentine’s present!
Despite the Fifty Shades of Grey revolution, there’s still far more interest in romance than sex. Worn out mothers say they’d far prefer a nice dinner or relaxing day at the spa than sexy presents such as lingerie.
While one in four women would like flowers, only one in fifty wants underwear. Adult toys were an even less popular gift idea.
“We can’t be spontaneous anymore. We have to close and or lock doors before romantic activities too!” one mother lamented.
Given how little alone-time most parents are getting, it’s no surprise that Valentine’s Day passes some couples by.
45% of respondents spend less than once a month together alone, without the kids. And 16% only get one day per month. But a lucky 19% spend two or more times together alone per week!
Many parents admit that their lives revolve around children now. Some are even turning Valentine’s Day into a family celebration, with children helping pick gifts out, baking cakes, sharing Valentine’s chocolates, and even coming along to a Valentine’s meal.
“It’s completely changed the way we do everything,” another mother confessed. “We can’t afford babysitting, and with three kids under seven and no family support, it’s pretty tricky organising time together at all let alone without kids – and feeling relaxed and sexy at the same time!”
Romance still endures
The good news is that despite the pressures, most women say they are satisfied with the level of romance in their lives. And nine out of ten plan to get their partners a Valentine’s gift, with cologne and clothing the top choices after a romantic meal.
But the most encouraging comment came from a lady who reminds us that love, romance and family can all co-exist.
“Having children hasn’t changed a thing. Valentine’s Day is still special even after 29 years of marriage.”
How do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Tell us in the comments below.