Some couples name their kids family names, and other couples create a shortlist and decide together on the final name. Some parents take turns in naming their kids. One parent names one, and the other parent names the next, but what happens if they hate the baby names the other has chosen?

One dad has shared on reddit that he has found himself in a sticky baby naming situation, “Our agreement was that I got to name the first baby, and she got to name the second baby.”

Naming the first baby was an easy decision, “She didn’t have any strong opinions or preferences with regards to naming our son so I went with what I thought was a strong, somewhat unique name but that could just as easily suit a musician as a lawyer or doctor. I picked the name Calvin Heath, the middle name after my brother who unfortunately passed away and my wife was fine with it.”

Now his wife is expecting their second baby and he’s not keen on the name she’s picked, “My wife told me she wants to name our daughter Ever Winter Rain, where Ever is the first name and Winter Rain is the middle name.”

“I don’t think this is a good name”

The 36-year-old father is not a fan, “I don’t think this is a good name and that it isn’t fair to our daughter because Ever is a word and I don’t think it passes the supreme court justice test — it doesn’t sound professional, it’s confusing because it’s a word and I don’t think it would suit her into adulthood.”

While Ever is a unique name, it isn’t one that hasn’t been used before. The name Ever is from English origin, with actress Milla Jovovich naming her daughter Ever in recent years.

A deal is a deal, and this dad is trying to wrangle his way out of this sticky situation, “I suggested Winter as the first name with a more normal middle name like Emma so she has options but my wife refused. But our agreement was that she got to pick the name.” He’s suggested that he’s going to refuse to sign the birth certificate so that she can’t be named Ever.

What do you think? Should he accept that his wife wants to call his new daughter Ever Winter Rain?

  • both parents need to agree


  • Both parents need to find an acceptable name. If one hates it, it would be terrible for the kid in the future.


  • I think it’s something both parents needs to agree on. Deal or no deal.


  • I think entering into such an agreement was a silly thing to do and now the father is indeed in a sticky situation. By not agreeing with her choice of name (especially after she agreed with his choice) will only cause her to lose trust and respect in him. I feel he needs to honour his side of the ‘bargain’ ……


  • I think making such a deal is silly to start with- you both should like and have input in the names. But now you’re in the situation you might need to accept it. Maybe spell it differently? Eva?


  • Naming children is always fraught with danger. The other thing is, as I found out, sometimes the names prepicked just don’t suit that beautiful baby bundle you are holding. Two of my four children were named on the spur of the moment because the names we had previously picked out just didn’t look like they would fit.


  • I’ve got a friend whose name is Ever. Spelled and said like that. Beautiful lady (personality and looks). At least the daughter won’t have 3 or more other Ever’s in her classes!


  • Oh that’s a tough situation to be in… Maybe try n convince her to have something similar to Ever


  • How about naming her Eva but pronounced Ever? Maybe a compromise…
    My mums name is Evangele but is called Eva pronounced Ever by everyone.
    Good luck ????????


  • I would try and convince your wife to drop the ‘r’ Eve Winter Rain flows more smoothly.


  • This is a hard situation naming your child together can be hard I always went with names that had a meaning and my partner always loved them because of the meanings I personally do not like the name ever and winter rain is a bit strange too unless there is a reason behind the name or something


  • Your child is a gift & created from love between two people. Both parents should choose (& agree upon) the name remembering this child has to go through life with this name – nobody wants to go through life continually spelling their name & this is what will happen when you become an adverb not a proper noun! There are enough difficulties in life – don’t add an unnecessary one!


  • Ooh, you had an agreement. Maybe a bit more considered discussion rather than “I hate the name” might go down a little better. Good luck with this one!


  • Picking a baby name together is so hard one of the biggest in the pregnancy journey. You have to take so much into account like when they are older will the name subject them to getting picked on ect.
    making it legal for Everly or something and then nick name could be ever I think is sweet.


  • Ever Winter Rain… Gosh, what an awful name. I’d be horrified if my partner chose that name. My ex husband named our first daughter from a list of names we had chosen, and although it wasn’t the name I would have settled for, it’s a great name and suits her. I would have liked to call her Justine, but he chose Renee, same name as his brothers daughter… Weird! She would have preferred my choice and doesn’t really like her name. The poor child in question, has to go through life with that name so I hope they find a compromise and choose wisely. I know they made a deal, but I guess the husband wasn’t expecting his wife to choose such a strange name. His choice of name for the son is really nice – I like it.


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