A deal is a deal and perhaps should have been made with provisos but its too late now and he just has to suck it up and allow his wife to name the baby.

Ever is a beautiful name.
The name will grow on you.
By your own admission you acknowledge your wife kept to her side of the deal regardless of her reasons.
So in other words you want to choose both kids names.
You both made the agreement now you want to bully your wife out of her choices by not signing the birth certificate.
Shame on you.
Step up and do the same

What a tricky situation to be in. I hope they find a resolution.

Ideally both parents should be happy with the name. Totally understand that it can be very hard. Personally I wouldn’t have had it any other way.

Ever Winter Rain is very unusual, I’m sure you can drop the word Ever and call her Winter Rain and as your daughter grows up she can decide whether she wants the name Ever Winter Rain. She might just want Winter.

A name lasts forever and it’s a big decision. I actually don’t mind the name Ever, and I suppose she can just be called something else if she doesn’t like it?

I can see where the dad is coming from here. Mum needs to think about his her child is going to feel later in life being called Ever. The middle name is just as bad.

I think you need to be honest. It isn’t fair for her to insist on a name you hate.

I think they both need to at least like the name. Hopefully they can work it out before their baby is born.

Naming your child is a wonderful thing but you both need to agree to the chosen name. I don’t like the name Ever for a child and I don’t think your daughter will like it when she is older. I’m just wondering if she’s to see if you stick to the deal. Hopefully she changes her mind and picks a better name that you both agree on.

both parents need to agree

Both parents need to find an acceptable name. If one hates it, it would be terrible for the kid in the future.

I think it’s something both parents needs to agree on. Deal or no deal.

I think entering into such an agreement was a silly thing to do and now the father is indeed in a sticky situation. By not agreeing with her choice of name (especially after she agreed with his choice) will only cause her to lose trust and respect in him. I feel he needs to honour his side of the ‘bargain’ ……

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  • • Ellen replied
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  Yes, I totally agree with this

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    • • mom468034 replied
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    i kind of agree with you. I also think that they should both think of the daughter who will face years of people going “huh?!” at the name. Also, it does smack a tiny bit of wanting to pick a unique name, rather than wait and meet the baby and see if it actually fits her. So many celebs strive for uniwue names for their kids and tbh, it is a bit naff!

I think making such a deal is silly to start with- you both should like and have input in the names. But now you’re in the situation you might need to accept it. Maybe spell it differently? Eva?

Naming children is always fraught with danger. The other thing is, as I found out, sometimes the names prepicked just don’t suit that beautiful baby bundle you are holding. Two of my four children were named on the spur of the moment because the names we had previously picked out just didn’t look like they would fit.

I’ve got a friend whose name is Ever. Spelled and said like that. Beautiful lady (personality and looks). At least the daughter won’t have 3 or more other Ever’s in her classes!

Oh that’s a tough situation to be in… Maybe try n convince her to have something similar to Ever

How about naming her Eva but pronounced Ever? Maybe a compromise…
My mums name is Evangele but is called Eva pronounced Ever by everyone.
Good luck ????????

I would try and convince your wife to drop the ‘r’ Eve Winter Rain flows more smoothly.