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A new mum has been left mortified after her husband humiliated her in front of his entire family by joking about her ‘embarrassing’ birth experience.

The 25-year-old first time mum says her birth experience was ‘pretty traumatic’ as she had no idea what to expect. She says labour was the most difficult time of her life, and she was in pain for hours.

Initially her mum was by her side, but when she left her husband remained with her throughout the labour. It was while he was supporting her that she did something almost every labouring mother does – she had a bowel movement.

“I did something so embarrassing in the delivery room, I pooped myself which was unexpected,” she explained on reddit. “It was embarrassing and although my medical team were very professional about it, my husband couldn’t help himself and started laughing about it later.”

She says her insensitive husband even told her family, who didn’t bat an eyelid.

“In fact, I found it embarrassing and I already told him to stop bringing it up especially when he started joking about getting me diapers for my “opsies!!” It got really tiring and chipped away from my self-esteem and confidence.”

 ‘I literally just lost it on him’

Unfortunately, the childish dad wasn’t finished.

“We were with his parents celebrating new year’s eve together when I excused myself to the bathroom. While I was getting up he made a quick remark and said, ‘Oh yeah, you should go quickly because we don’t want any accidents just like the one we had at the hospital, you know what I mean?’ While winking at me. His family actually laughed and BIL commented, ‘Good one!'”

Understandably, the new mum couldn’t take it any longer, and unleashed on her husband.

“I was astonished and so angry and ashamed, I literally just lost it on him and yelled at the top of my lungs calling him a cruel insensitive jerk to be using the difficult experience of birthing his child as a joking matter and humiliating me in front of everybody. He was shocked, staring back at me and not saying a word.

“All went silent and I just stormed off to the bathroom until we left and that was when he snapped saying I messed up by talking to him like that in front of his family during dinner. I said I couldn’t hold my tongue for that long and after he kept joking about an embarrassing thing when I told him to stop. He said he was just joking and I went overboard with my reaction and also, I should’ve sucked it up and waited until we got home so we could address this privately and I could even yell at him as long as I wanted.

“We argued about it after we got home and he kept saying I humiliated him in front of his family during the celebratory evening by being petty and trying to one up him. He even said I should’ve laughed along not fly off the handle like that. Did I overreact?”

What do you think? Should the new mum just have ‘sucked it up?’ Let us know in the comments below.

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  • Your husband was an insensitive jerk and he’s the one who stuffed up. You have no reason to feel you should have just sucked it in.

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  • Definitely didnt consider his wife feelings at all after everything she endured

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  • That’s embarrassing and thought less.

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  • You did not over react at all. I would have been just as furious & I would have probably let the rest of the family have it for laughing too. I would think the MIL of all people would have told her son off for you. She knows all to well what giving birth is like & should expect her son to be more respectful not just of you, but women in general. If my son ever did anything like that to his wife, I would be mortified.

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  • you did not over react, he is very insensitive. Do not stoop to his level and bring up any embarrassing moments that may have occurred for him. IF you have another pregnancy maybe refuse him to be in the delivery room and he can wait like fathers use to back in the 70’s

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  • Well done for speaking up, it’s not an over reaction at all. I don’t think I would have been able to contain my feelings about it for as long as she did. And this is why men don’t have babies, they have no idea how pregnancy and birth impacts our bodies and bodily functions during labour.

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  • What a nasty pig of a man! I feel so sad for you. He should have been supporting you with love and kindness! Only brave people have love and kindness to be shared at very embarrassing and stressful moments.

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  • It’s about time your husband grew up and became a man. Men don’t shame their parents the way he has been shaming you since the birth of your child. Show him this comment if you wish.

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  • Boy has he got some nerve. I’d like to see him push a child out and not poop himself. I don’t think she over reacted at all. I would have lost my cool too. Good on her and shame on him for acting like a child than try turn the blame on her. Nope I don’t think so bud.

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  • You did not over react, especially when you had told him on other occasions to not tell anyone or keep talking about it because you are embarrassed and he obviously wasn’t letting it go. Good on you for sticking up for yourself

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  • I would not have dealt with that well at all. I would have done the same thing, especially if you have asked them to stop. You didn’t embarrass him by yelling at him for being a child, he embarrassed you for making those remarks. They will never understand how huge childbirth is and how emotional it all is.

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  • This is so wrong of him, he embarrasses you and then has the hide to be angry at being embarrassed, he should be apologising to you, it’s a natural part of labour that they forget to mention to you to expect. Tell him to grow up.

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  • How nasty. What a jerk. He wouldn’t think it funny if it was himself in pain giving birth and having those side effects (that are common and expected).

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  • Very disrespectful.
    Also concerns me that she thought pooping while in labour was unexpected? It’s basically part of labour and I very much expected it. Infact I had a little celebrate when I pooped on the table. Definitely not something to be embarrassed about.

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  • He is being disrespectful to you when you were giving birth to his child and he should stop it now it’s old. Tell him how you feel and if he keeps it up you will not be going anywhere with him and you’ve had enough of his shit.
    He is very childish and if you decide to have anymore children I wouldn’t let him in the birthing room.

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