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A new mum has been left mortified after her husband humiliated her in front of his entire family by joking about her ‘embarrassing’ birth experience.

The 25-year-old first time mum says her birth experience was ‘pretty traumatic’ as she had no idea what to expect. She says labour was the most difficult time of her life, and she was in pain for hours.

Initially her mum was by her side, but when she left her husband remained with her throughout the labour. It was while he was supporting her that she did something almost every labouring mother does – she had a bowel movement.

“I did something so embarrassing in the delivery room, I pooped myself which was unexpected,” she explained on reddit. “It was embarrassing and although my medical team were very professional about it, my husband couldn’t help himself and started laughing about it later.”

She says her insensitive husband even told her family, who didn’t bat an eyelid.

“In fact, I found it embarrassing and I already told him to stop bringing it up especially when he started joking about getting me diapers for my “opsies!!” It got really tiring and chipped away from my self-esteem and confidence.”

 ‘I literally just lost it on him’

Unfortunately, the childish dad wasn’t finished.

“We were with his parents celebrating new year’s eve together when I excused myself to the bathroom. While I was getting up he made a quick remark and said, ‘Oh yeah, you should go quickly because we don’t want any accidents just like the one we had at the hospital, you know what I mean?’ While winking at me. His family actually laughed and BIL commented, ‘Good one!'”

Understandably, the new mum couldn’t take it any longer, and unleashed on her husband.

“I was astonished and so angry and ashamed, I literally just lost it on him and yelled at the top of my lungs calling him a cruel insensitive jerk to be using the difficult experience of birthing his child as a joking matter and humiliating me in front of everybody. He was shocked, staring back at me and not saying a word.

“All went silent and I just stormed off to the bathroom until we left and that was when he snapped saying I messed up by talking to him like that in front of his family during dinner. I said I couldn’t hold my tongue for that long and after he kept joking about an embarrassing thing when I told him to stop. He said he was just joking and I went overboard with my reaction and also, I should’ve sucked it up and waited until we got home so we could address this privately and I could even yell at him as long as I wanted.

“We argued about it after we got home and he kept saying I humiliated him in front of his family during the celebratory evening by being petty and trying to one up him. He even said I should’ve laughed along not fly off the handle like that. Did I overreact?”

What do you think? Should the new mum just have ‘sucked it up?’ Let us know in the comments below.

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  • Your husband chose to make this insensitive comment in front of his family and then he expects you to wait with responding till home so you guys could discuss it preivately ?? How hypocrite !

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  • No you didn’t overreact to what he has been doing. I have had three deliveries, and I only did this once thankfully, but there is no way that anyone should be making a joke of it to anyone! It is a private and personal thing and should really be kept in the delivery room.

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  • This husband is so childish and immature! No appreciation of what happens to the woman’s body and what she goes through during birth.

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  • Wow wtf, that’s so insensitive. No you were not in the wrong at all!

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  • Total w@nk3r! Even though she could of waited to go off at him, i understand how hard that actually is in the moment when u have bit your tongue so long! Narcassistic ego crap behaviour from him, belittling and then gaslighting her

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  • Oh hell no. You did overreact and his BIL is as asshole too.

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  • Extremely rude, tasteless and basically not called for. He really seems like a very insensitive male who has a bif ego.

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  • Wow, what a jerk. I would have thrown a plate at him.

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  • This husband sounds incredibly infantile.

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  • That husband is an absolute self-centred, egotistical prick! You need to leave him!

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  • that’s honestly horrifying and so selfish of him. He has no right to make jokes like that. Tasteless.

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  • I haven’t herd a labour storey yet that didn’t involve doing a poo!
    You are pushing after all

    Please don’t feel embarrassed
    Your husband sounds like a simpleton to find something like that to be so hilarious that he can’t get over

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  • I’m not really sure if he’s just really immature or if this is like an entry-level abusive/mental health related behaviour….but either way good on you for setting him straight……if he can’t stand being belittled he shouldn’t do it to others. What a douche……

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  • Geez, he wouldn’t be my husband anymore for sure

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  • I would have personally lost it alot sooner. How rude of him.

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