After suffering through her first Mother’s Day without her son, a grieving mum says her husband has added to her unimaginable pain by telling her she’s ‘technically no longer a mother’.
The woman says she lost her seven-year-old son just a few months ago due to illness, and her husband was the boy’s stepfather. She says her grief is still very raw, but she’s careful not to let her emotions become too overwhelming for her family and friends.
“I make sure I don’t bother others with my ‘burden’, although my husband has been saying that I’ve become lazy and neglectful towards home chores, work etc etc. He’s partially right but those who have been in my place know how hard it is just to get out of bed these days,” she explained on reddit.
‘You’re no longer a mother’
This past weekend was her first Mother’s Day without her son, and understandably she says her hurst was ‘at its highest’. So she decided to take a walk to clear her head, and when she returned home she discovered her family and friends had sent gifts to cheer her up.
“Some gifts were like mementos, which really touched me hard. My husband came home an hour ago and excitedly showed him what everyone sent for me for Mother’s Day. He made a face and said that that was nice. I noticed that he didn’t bring anything but I asked just to make sure.
“He told me he intended to not bring a Mother’s Day gift, I asked why and he said didn’t feel like I should hear it but I insisted. He nonchalantly told me that it’s because he thought I’m no longer a mother. I was baffled by this response I blew up on him but he told me he meant this ‘technically’. I asked if he thought that I can no longer call myself a mother just because my son passed. He said no but what he meant to say is that these circumstances are different and refused to expand on his argument.
“I started a big fight with him about it and he went upstairs after saying that I was lashing out at him for no reason and that I should control my temper and has been staying there so far. I don’t know if I went too far here but it seems like I did because he’s so upset and refusing to come downstairs and speak to me.”
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