I think you are grossly over reacting. Shes 14 and she said something that perhaps wasnt worded the best but I dont think she in any way meant to be rude. She probably feels bad enough without you rubbing her face in it. Grow up and set an example that its always better to take the high road

Call it out by all means, but I don’t know that banning her from your house is the best approach.

I can definitely understand the sentiment behind this

I’d let it go and for the sake of your daughter give her friend a second chance. Hopefully she’s smart enough to not comment again.

I kinda think you’re over doing it. Let it go, she’s 14 for heavens sake. At least let her have a second chance, don’t be so sensitive, for your daughters sake……encourage the only friendship she has

As the adult you should get over it for the sake of your daughter’s friendship, as you’ve said, she struggles with making friends. I think it’s more important to put your ego aside.

Your and adult she is a child. Get over it. Your daughter as at last made a friend and she’s happy its not all about you. Kids make stupid comments every day and if it was such an issue you should have said something then. I would have laughed it off. Seems like you put your feelings ahead of your daughter and that’s not right.

I think 14 is old enough to learn what to do when you make a blunder in a social situation. Apologize! If nothing is said she will think it’s ok to say hurtful things to someone in front of others.

I would have totally ignored it

Your daughter has made a friend and is happy, I would be focusing on that and the comment came on incorrectly out of a 14 years old mouth. I’d move on past it. She probably has long forgotten about it even if you haven’t.

I think we need to take the friend’s age into account. At 14 sometimes phrases get blurted out that meant no harm. The Mother could have handled it better as an adult, laugh it off, or say to the friend ” I think you could have phrased that a bit better”.

Oh no. It’s such a tough age. I think communication is key here

I think you need to realise that this is a 14 year old girl and often they say things that come out wrong. I’m sure you’ve sometimes said something and it has come out completely different to the way you intended it. Let it go, and be the adult

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  I agree with letting it go and giving it no value.

Well I would have to say how rude is the friend and I dont think I would let her back into my house either sorry

I don’t think she’s going to apologise. I understand it was embarrassing and hurtful, but sadly, I think you just need to be the adult and move on.

Children and adults say lots of different things and make comments often without realising impacts. Best to shake it off and move on, life is way too short for slights and angst.

I think you’re being a bit hard on her – she’s a teenager, and she clearly knew it was a foot in the mouth as soon as she said it.

I’d say let this one go, the girl clearly feels awkward about it, so give her a chance to make up with a second dinner and sleep over.

I don’t think it’s a good idea to still want to get an apology. Maybe if you had responded at the time but after a month I’d just get over it. I’m sure the comment just came out the wrong way. Let it go for your Daughter!

Hmm this is interesting. While I think it’s important we raise a generation of humans who are able to apologise appropriately, at the same time this women is the adult and I don’t think this girl meant any harm. She was likely extremely embarrassed after the incident occurred.