It sounds like you had the right intentions and maybe she’s got so defensive and hasn’t appreciated it as she knows deep down it’s the truth and she’s not comfortable with admitting it.

Any advice which is for the purpose of correction rather than criticizing other person, is good.

If it’s truly from a place of concern i don’t see a problem

If they are very close to each other then its ok to say something but not when you don’t know someone very well.

I think that was the best way to go about it. In person rather than in front of the group. I would have done the same

I think she only said something out of concern. If she gets the chance, just tell Sherry that you were just concerned for her and wanted her to know you were there for her if she just needed someone to talk to. If Sherry starts causing trouble for you then you might need to find another Mothers Group to be with or have a meeting to say where alcohol can and can’t be consumed and see who else agrees

Tough one but sounds like she can’t go without drinking. At least she waited until it was just the two of them.

I don’t think would have said anything; unless it would be my best friends, I would have serious and grounded concerns and would see other symptoms. When you’re not happy in a group or feel that you’re one way or the other differ in opinion or interest I would simply stay away and find other people to connect with

If it’s coming from a right place with no judgment

No one here is an asshole, just being concerned for her welfare.

I do hope everyone becomes a happy person again. I probably wouldn’t have said anything, but of I was getting worried that the influence on my children was bad, then I would not have been at those gatherings where wine would be brought out.

Asking out of concern is a good thing. You never know if alcohol is a way of someone crying out for help. How she responds is up to her and you were being a concerned friend.

You’ve only known her for a few months and so long as she’s not putting her kids in danger I wouldn’t have said anything. Maybe she suffers anxiety? and really wanted to make friends.. Even if she does have a problem, unfortunately if she’s not ready to deal with it/ or admit to it there’s not a lot you can do especially as you are not really that close in the first place.

Personally I don’t feel like it’s anyone else business but her own. As an socially anxious person a drink of wine around a bunch other woman who I may feel could be judging me would take the edge off. The woman may also not have any other friends or think that maybe all the other mums do want a glass of wine. As a woman in her 30s most of the mums I know indulge in a glass at night time. Especially in Australia. I think the mums could have made her feel really crappy without realising.

Such an awkward position to be in. Wine time with friends can be fun while the kids play as long as its in moderation and each parent is keeping an eye on their child. If the boozy get together was getting out of hand then maybe checkin on the host and make sure they are ok have a water with them or just pack up your child and leave. Then maybe have a chat with that friend in private the following day.

Not being much of a drinker, it was not an issue for me or anyone in our Mother’s Group. This Mum was obviously concerned, but perhaps it could have been done separately and away from everyone. I don’t know. I feel like, until you’re in this situation and in the middle of it, you don’t know how you’re going to feel or react. I do know of a Mum who had concerns about a friend who drank often and then drove her kids (and this Mum’s son in her car), but she wasn’t prepared to do or say anything except lessen the opportunity for her kids to be in this woman’s company.

This is a tricky one, I would go with my gut. If I am uncomfortable about my kids watching something which can be construed as negative then I would call out. Even though she is not causing any harm to anyone kids can be influenced by this act and they may not know where to draw a line.

Hard situation to be in. The other mum could have a serious problem and be in denial. I think it’s good she broached the problem but now time to leave it rest. You can’t help someone if they don’t want help.

I don’t think she’s wrong at all. It’s not really a good image for kids to always be seeing their parents drink. Have a mum date without kids if you want to do that.

I had plenty of wines while catching up with girl friends & kids in the afternoons and evenings. I don’t have a problem with it, we were just enjoying life. I always kept it by one glass myself and non of my friends got ever drunk.