Keep the money and save the family dramas and resentment.

This would be a very hard situation for him. Understandably difficult to come to a decision.

This is such a hard situation to be in. I can see both sides of it. Maybe they should put it in a term deposit for a while so it earns some interest and then decide later

Its hard situations. Hard to say what to do if we don’t know whole story.

While I think it’s his money and he can do whatever he wants with it, give it to who he wants, I think he could have gone about it in a different way.
If he really wanted to just give it to his brother for his kids, maybe he could have done it quietly without the sister knowing, as it’s obviously a touchy and sensitive topic for her.
I can understand where she’s coming from, she’s probably desperate for a child and willing to put everything she has into giving it one last try.

Why doesn’t he give them both some.

It is his money to do as he wishes but I sense it may create a riff in the family if he gifts it to one sibling and not another, BUT I can understand why he wishes to help out his brother with his children.

I kind of agree with the brother. Given the sister has struggled through multiple rounds of IVF, there’s no guarantee this round would work, when the money would really help his brothers family who already have expenses with children

Ooh, tricky. Can he split it between the two?

I agree to share the money with his brother who has three kids. But i do not agree on how he delivered the message to his sister. Maybe they do not have a good relationship to start with.

What a priceless gift

It depends on what relationship you want with your siblings in future. It you want an equal relationship, then give the money equally (or not at all). It is your choice and your money, but as it is now known that you are giving the money away, of course someone will be hurt if they will be left out.

The sister doesn’t really get a say. It’s his money to do with as he chooses.

A very tough one here. But I can see his point. I think perhaps sharing a portion would help

When money is inherited it is ultimately the choice of an individual/s to decide what to do with it.
People should probably use there money before they pass and leave none to fight over!
We have advised our in laws to spend their money before they pass and enjoy their money, they worked for it!

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 26 Jun 2022 , 7:35 am

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  Definitely !
  My parents gave us for many years a portion an xx amount of money when they were still alive, whilst living a good live themselves too.
  My in-laws however try to save as much as possible for their children, whilst living very sober themselves.

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    • • mom93821 replied
      • 30 Jun 2022 , 8:42 pm

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    Such a wise way to live too. I would much rather live that way too. A good life for all makes sense.

Pity it came to this but his sister has really brought it on herself by asking for the money. The other brother didn’t ask for it, and at the end of the day the money is his to do with whatever he would like.

I don’t understand why he doesn’t just relinquish his share and the estate can be split 50/50 between the other two siblings. He is entitled to do as he wishes, but why create a rift?

This is a tough one. My heart goes out to the sister but the brother should probably get some. Half each.

It’s his money to use as he chooses. It’s a shame for his sister but I also agree that the brother with 3 kids is a more immediate need. There are no guarantees with IVF unfortunately.

He has every right to choose what he wants to do with the money. But if this is causing problems between the siblings it’s best to split it, it’s not worth having siblings fight over money, it’s better to maintain the relationships.
Also if the sister can see her other brother struggling with three kids she needs to be compassionate in those circumstances as well and help out herself not dump her other brother, they are siblings they need to help each other.