I’m one that wouldn’t care, but my husband does he’d find it lazy and expects dinners to be a proper cooked hot meal on a plate at the table

This sounds completely reasonable. Where does the other mum get off in calling another parent stingy. This is strange and immature behaviour.

I think play dates should not extend over a mealtime in the first place. Personally I would just ignore this mother and see how things work out with the two boys still being playmates.

I don’t see what’s wrong with it. I’d rather my kids have sandwiches at a playdate as opposed to heaps of lollies or chocolates.

When there are children starving in the world this is a non issue.

I think visiting other peoples houses is about the experience. You expect things to be done different in other homes and should be ok with that. It’s all new experiences for kids

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  • • mom93821 replied
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  I agree, experiencing different things is a must for growth.

Honestly, I think grazing on sandwiches is a great idea. Its not laziness whatsoever! If you are caring for your kid plus hers, plus are expected to cook a hot meal for the children thats well overboard! She can cook all she likes for her family but don’t expect everyone else to do the same.

Totally a non-issue! Kids love grazing. And you can put super healthy things into sandwiches and customise to kids tastes.

That was so rude of her. You didn’t know how long he was going to stay or if he was going home to a meal. If she wanted her son to have something specific she should have given him a specific time to be home. Some people expect too much.

Be grateful that your son was fed. Can you imagine if he came home and said he didn’t eat anything. People can be ridiculous!!

Wow! How rude? How dare she comment and complain about what her son was fed. No words!

Wow! This is a joke right? How rude and self entitled can someone be?

When this friend is not happy with the foods this mum presents, she could either provide her son’s food, refrain from sleepovers or just suck it up

How incredibly rude!! There is absolutely nothing wrong with sandwiches for dinner! I’ve done it myself as an adult since forever and theres nights where my son will only accept a sandwich (or two) for dinner. The other mums behavior is, quite frankly, appalling.

Food is food, hot or cold doesn’t matter. It’s not lazy at all. That other mum is so rude. If she want her son to have a hot meal every night then pick him up before dinner time.

Also, I think the other mum was very rude.

I think it’s rude to judge what other parents serve for things like this, you’re essentially getting free babysitting!

She isn’t stingy or lazy at all. Getting fed is a bonus and the kid should have been grateful and the mother didn’t need to comment. Ive had kids over who didn’t want roast or pasta so I made a grazing platter with cheeses, dips, veggie sticks and cold meats which they loved. Some people are just never happy.

It sounds as though you have thought this out very well and have delivered a very healthy option for the boys. The mother obviously doesn’t have the same consideration and who always has a cooked meal for dinner?

Even the fact that this friend texted her the following morning asking what she made for dinner last night ! and then telling that her son eats hot food for dinner and she didn’t realise her friend was so stingy…goes beyond my understanding